Despite the abundance of information, we still have a lot of prejudices that can complicate intimate life. Sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc analyzes one of these common opinions.
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The answer is no. Ejaculation can cause a real orgasm, or maybe just a discharge (comparable to that which gives urination) or even painful sensations. At the moment of ejaculation, some are overcome by the feeling that they are not up to par, and someone experiences an unconscious feeling of losing himself …
Be that as it may, if ejaculation were synonymous with orgasm, then why would men bother to communicate with partners? It would be enough to masturbate, which also eliminates all sorts of risks that are possible with a love date.
The fact of the matter is that everything most important happens precisely in interaction with another. The pleasure of orgasm is not limited to the reaction of the nervous system. It largely depends on the freedom that we give (or not) to our feelings, on our ability to open up, not embarrassed to be as we are.
A man likes to believe that his masculine strength is manifested in the clear work of his body, in the ability to wind up with a half turn
The sensations of orgasm are never the same, they range from sweet to unpleasant, they can be deafening like fireworks, or silent, mute. Not only women have access to the whole gamut of these experiences. In this symphony of feelings, let’s not assign men only the role of a metronome …
Where did the myth come from that a man is not capable of sophisticated pleasure from sex? Perhaps he helps a woman feel more confident? And why do men support in their partners the belief that every ejaculation is accompanied by an orgasm?
This is required by the female desire for omnipotence: she is pleased to think that the pleasure of a man depends on how seductive she is for him. A man likes to believe that his masculine strength is manifested in the precise work of his body, in the ability to wind up with half a turn. Our prejudices show us what is bothering us.
But in this vulnerability lies the charm of sexual life: through our weaknesses, we still get to pleasure, which always hangs in the balance.