Tips for parents
1. When communicating with a child, do not undermine the authority of other significant people for him. (For example, you can’t tell a child: “Your teachers understand a lot! Better listen to your grandmother!”)
2. Be consistent in your actions, do not forbid the child for no reason what you allowed before.
3. Consider the possibilities of children, do not demand from them what they cannot fulfill. If any subject is difficult for a child, it is better to help him once again and provide support, and when even the slightest success is achieved, do not forget to praise him.
4. Trust the child, be honest with him and accept him for who he is.
5. If for some objective reasons it is difficult for a child to study, choose a circle for him to his liking so that classes in it bring him joy and he does not feel disadvantaged.
Cheat sheet for adults, or Rules for working with anxious children
- Avoid competitions and any kind of work that takes into account speed.
- Don’t compare your child to others.
- Use physical contact more often, relaxation exercises.
- Contribute to the increase in the child’s self-esteem, praise him more often, but so that he knows why.
- Address your child by name more often.
- Demonstrate patterns of confident behavior, be an example to the child in everything.
- Don’t make excessive demands on your child.
- Be consistent in raising your child.
- Try to make the child as few comments as possible.
- Use punishment only in extreme cases.
- Do not humiliate the child by punishing him.
If parents are not satisfied with the behavior and success of their child, this is not a reason to deny him love and support. Let him live in an atmosphere of warmth and trust, and then all his many talents will manifest.