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All you can learn from the days when you are sad
World Happiness Day
Sadness can help us focus on ourselves and get to know ourselves better
Happiness is an emotion that we all crave. However, there are others such as sadness without which we could not live either and which has its benefits for our development as people. Mónica García, personal leadership coach and founder of El Factor Humano, maintains that being sad can also be positive and share three benefits of this emotion and how feeling sad can become an opportunity to reconnect with yourself.
For the professional, happiness is also achieved by learning to naturally include gray and sad moments, nostalgia, disappointments and suffering in our lives, seeing them as a useful part of living the life we want.
«Light needs shadows to exist. That shadow is the emotion of sadness that a priori can be considered as a negative feeling but that has great potential to stimulate our personal development, already invites us to privacy. To find a place alone to be with ourselves. Something that, with the rhythm of life at which, consciously or unconsciously, we have said yes, rarely happens », affirms the personal leadership coach, Mónica García.
Three benefits of sadness
For the expert from El Factor Humano, the problem with seeing sadness as something negative is that by staying alone with it, instead of creating greater intimacy and clarity, we find that we feel sorry for ourselves, we become more negative, we can even come to fear it if we think that if we let ourselves feel it we can enter a depression. As a consequence, we reject it by entertaining ourselves, ignoring it, doing whatever it takes not to feel it.
Now sadness has several gifts for us. Intimacy helps us create a space to be in relationship with ourselves. We want them to listen to us, understand us or listen to us but, How many times do you stop to listen to yourself?How many of the times do you stop to listen to yourself then listen to yourself? Sadness therefore helps us create a stronger and more intimate relationship with ourselves.
Stopping to reflect also offers us the opportunity to identify what is missing in our lives. In this facet sadness is very useful because it appears when we have our mind in the past, in particular in what was in the past that I no longer have, or in what we have lost, a loved one, a possibility for the future, or the opportunity to tell a loved one that you love them or do a favor. Sadness therefore warns us that by focusing on what we have lost, we are missing the opportunities that do exist in the present moment as well as the new possibilities for the future.
Sadness will also draw our attention when we get stuck in missing, in order for you to take action in the direction of what you want. Because what you miss is what you want the most. Turn it around and find creative ways to add to your life what you miss. And don’t get attached to the way to get what you want. For example, if you want more love, don’t just get it from a particular person, be open to share and give love too. If you miss a loved one because you loved him very much, keep loving him, keep thinking about him while you feel your heart full of love for that loved one.
However, These states of sadness must be temporary and transitory. If you anchor yourself in this feeling, focus on the past, forget yourself and the sadness is persistent, it is very likely that you will need the help of a professional to move forward.