Sometimes the goals we set are too abstract. Or we know exactly what we want, but we are marking time. Together with psychologist Maria Chubar, we figure out how to achieve results and finally turn a dream into reality.
I want to learn how to drive a car for 3 years, but I still ride the subway. I have been dreaming of a new profession for 5 years, but I have to go to an unloved job, the result of which I do not see. I know what I want, but I’m wasting my time, procrastinating, and losing confidence out of the blue. Each success and failure largely depends on what goals we set for ourselves and what actions we take on the way to them.
“Feed your mind with great thoughts, because you can never rise higher than you think” — Benjamin Disraeli, 42nd British Prime Minister. And they very accurately reflect the real state of affairs. In childhood, a person develops one of the most important psychological mechanisms — “I can”. There are parents who were able to correctly explain to the child: in this world there are no big and small goals, there is only a large or small amount of energy that you will spend on the realization of each individual one.
But, unfortunately, society is not organized ideally, and in most cases, people, only as adults, begin to work on the problems of goal setting. When we talk about a goal, always think about how specific, measurable and harmonious it is in relation to you and your life. For a quick analysis, use the algorithm:
1. «Where am I now.» At this point, we must realize how far our goal is, what we have at the start. ⠀
2. «What I want.» At this stage, you need to see the specific result that you want to achieve. That is, if your goal is to lose weight, then at the point “what I want” you must indicate the specific weight that you are striving for. If you want to earn more, there should be a specific figure, how much you should earn per day and per hour in order to reach your goal. If the goal is not material and intangible, for example, to become more confident, then the result will be a state — a feeling of confidence.
3. «Unconditional faith in the result.» Here, trust in the world and faith in oneself are intertwined. It is important to remember all your achievements, even small ones, gifts of fate that you once had. ⠀
4. «Actions». Evaluate everything you can do to achieve what you want, step by step. It is very good if the actions are aimed at ensuring that reality matches the goal. You must visualize as much as possible the reality in which the goal is achieved. If it is material, for example, you want to buy a car, find out its exact cost, take the time to stop by a car dealership and look at it, sign up for a test drive. So the goal will become part of reality and it will be easier for you to achieve it. ⠀
5. «Result». It is closely related to will and effort. Don’t be afraid to give yourself some time to analyze the path to the goal and understand what steps helped you, what hindered you, whether you like what you have achieved. Remember that every day a person sets hundreds of goals for himself, and every day he goes through a new section of a long path to self-improvement.