The scientific literature describes many meanings of the word “aggression”. One of the definitions of this psychological term is the following: “this is destructive behavior that contradicts norms and harms surrounding objects and subjects.”
This phenomenon is bad for the mental health of adolescents. But why do teens behave aggressively? All kinds of diseases of the brain, nervous system and somatic diseases are considered the reasons for aggression in adolescents. The most important reason is raising a child in a family. When he is constantly punished, scolded, bullied and even beaten, it is quite logical to expect such reactions as aggression and negative emotions. Most adults believe that such behavior is unacceptable, that you need to learn to control yourself, to keep everything inside. We are forced to inform such parents that negative energy is a cold weapon not only for the mental health of a teenager, but also for the normal functioning of internal organs. If a child constantly experiences all the troubles within himself, then sooner or later one can expect an explosion not only of a volcano of aggression, but of more serious forms.
It is very difficult to find a compromise with such a student. If parents stop reacting in every possible way to their child’s bad behavior, then he stops fighting and aggression will become the norm for him. In order not to call on a new wave of outburst of aggression, the child must not be punished or humiliated.
Many people think that aggression and aggressiveness are identical concepts. Let’s try to figure it out together. Aggression is a defensive reaction that can occur in adolescents with low self-esteem. The main feature of the state of aggression is the unwillingness to harm someone. As for aggressiveness, in this case the opposite is true. To distinguish between these two conditions, you need to know the signs of at least one of them. Aggression can be signaled by: frequent loss of control of the child over his behavior, arguments and quarrels with adults and peers. The teenager tries in every possible way to take revenge and blame everyone for his failures, all the people around him are enemies and ill-wishers who constantly annoy him. With the help of aggression, the child tries to become an authority.
In psychology, there are several types of manifestations of aggression:
- Physical aggression – is expressed by the manifestation of physical violence towards another person.
- Verbal aggression – the child shows his aggression through words, shouts, screeching.
- Irritated – a teenager is rude and harsh for any reason.
- Suspicion – a child sees an enemy in every person.
- Indirect aggression – a teenager tries to “annoy” his abuser with the help of gossip.
- Resentment is manifested in the investigation of the start.
- “Hidden” aggression – one and only goal in this case for a teenager is revenge.
How can you help a teenager to cope with such a serious problem as aggression?
Remember that any aggression is fraught with some reason. Perhaps it can be as a method of self-affirmation, a way to express your emotions in this way, or simply not knowing how to behave differently. Try to talk to your child and find out the reason for his unworthy behavior. Be aware that as a teenager, a child tries to inherit from someone. Maybe he is copying your behavior?
Very often, teenagers become irritable due to the constant quarrels and scandals of their parents. Think about it, maybe this is the reason for the same behavior of your children?
Aggressive teens don’t know how to empathize with others and feel sorry for them. Parents need to try to explain this to them and teach them to manage their behavior and emotions, to relax in cases where you so want to flare up and say a lot of nasty things.
Most children behave aggressively because they do not know how otherwise. You need to try hard to explain to them what other ways, besides aggression, you can solve this or that problem.
In no case should you experience all the negative emotions inside yourself, this was mentioned a little earlier. Encourage your child to find an activity where they can release all their negative energy. It can be sports or some other alternative.
To understand your child and help him, you do not need to contact a psychologist, because the best psychologist is his parents. Be more attentive, kinder and sincere, talk more and then your child will never be aggressive.