Age negativism

Maybe age-related negativism is a consequence of a great life experience? Maybe even optimists would change their minds with age, just with the advent of real life experience?

This is hardly the reason for age-related negativism. With age, not everyone gets smarter: if a person was stupid, it will remain so. A person is a set of prejudices, sometimes successful, sometimes not. In a good society, people, even if the school and parents failed to do this, gain a decent set of prejudices and become like intelligent people. But this is not their merit. These sensible thoughts were hammered into them. Therefore, some other mechanism is at work here. Most likely it is:

• hormonal background,
• health status.

As a child, your whole body sings, you want to move, the world is beautiful — all this happens due to the hormonal background. The child, as a healthy being, reacts to everything with interest. There are exceptions of the genus when children are already born cowardly and hostile, but this happens quite rarely.

If you buy a non-used car, what is it like? When I look at people, the simplest analogy that always comes up is the year a car was made. And now the car is holding up, MOT passes, but this is already a used version.

So in a person with age, the hormonal background changes and it becomes objectively difficult to live.

My head hurts, my legs hurt, I suffer from hemorrhoids, and for many years, not hours. Already the back is heavy, and it seems to live for so long. And since you didn’t raise children, children are bad, because you hoped for them, but did nothing to make the hope come true. You didn’t care about your life.

How to deal with age negativism?

Marina and I agreed that if we notice traits of negativism in each other, we immediately signal this.

How do we do it? There are many options. If in a conversation with other people I went into a negative, Marina does not show it, she smiles: “Everything is in order.” After the conversation, he takes my hand and says: “Dear, remember, we talked about the negative.” I think, thank her and, as a rule, kiss her on the cheek. If this happens to Marina during a conversation with me, but about other people (which happens most often), I take her hand and say: “Marina, what do you want from me”?

Such a question will become an absolute stupor, because when a person talks about the negative, he, as a rule, does not have a constructive one. “I propose to close this topic, because it is negative.” Everything. A switch takes place.

Or another option: I refuse to continue the conversation with the words: «Let’s wait 5 minutes and return to this topic, because it needs to be discussed in a different style and with a different intonation.»

Yes, Synton will soon have flags with good inscriptions, such as “I’m right” or “I love you”, and on one of the flags there will be “softer, please. Thanks!». I will definitely use them, for example, instead of a flower that is always with you. You give the flag «I love you» and kiss. Nicely. And then you check the box “softer, please. Thanks!».