What to do with a husband-kopush, who, moreover, immediately snaps if he is rushed? Can’t you do something already?
Sometimes this issue is resolved, sometimes not: it depends on the relationship between you. If the relationship is good, then after you hurried, and he snapped, ask (maybe later, when there is already time to talk, but the situation has not yet been forgotten): “Darling, I hurried now, and you didn’t like it. Sorry, I must have said it poorly. And what is the best way for you to say this, what words are suitable here?
In more detail, then there are two different questions: the first is the husband-kopush, the second is he snaps. The husband snaps only if you do not follow the format of the relationship, if you allow him (and, apparently, yourself) to behave in an inappropriate way.
Remember: when he was in love and caring, he did not allow himself this, and you, most likely, refrained from harsh remarks. And once there was that very first moment when the husband reacted to you not in love, but simply, otherwise it’s possible and just gu.e .. Then, for the first time, it was easy to stop him, and if you did it, next to you attentive and correct person. If you missed that, you’re in an uneven relationship.
For the future, follow the format in new relationships, and in these relationships and with this person, try to do a «reset» — discuss your relationship and offer to fix it from both sides. If you start by committing to yourself, there is a high chance that your soul mate will behave more carefully. If you start helping each other, you can really do a lot.
As for the “husband-kopush” proper (the variant “wife-kopush” is even more frequent), it is decided at the level of common sense. The first is that if you need to be in time for something, then, taking into account the hustle and bustle, we allocate more time for the training camp.
We announce in advance that the training camp has begun, we launch the training camp and make sure that there are no unnecessary distractions. We close extraneous topics, we ask the children not to distract, we do not let them go unnecessarily to the computer — here you just need to know the list of points where a person “freezes”.
Secondly, we discuss the date when everyone should be ready.
Timing agreements can be soft or hard. A soft agreement is only a guideline, and we both agree that we are guided by this period, but if it is later, then it’s not scary. And then some sloppiness is allowed. If, however, it is clearly agreed that the agreement is tough (it is important here that both accepted it, both are ready for this in advance), then this is how to catch the plane: the flight takes place without options, those who did not have time are loaded onto the plane in slippers, as they are and with what has been gathered…
Such questions, like all similar questions of family relations, are always best discussed in advance, for example, using the questionnaire Basics of the family contract.