A psychological infantile is a child who has insisted on his right to remain a child forever. To prevent this from happening, parents must be stronger than the child and consistent in their demands.
Sometimes a teenager strongly insists on his right to remain a child. In these cases, sometimes, parents have to be tough.
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A psychological infantile is a child who has been taught by his parents that he is only and exclusively a child. To prevent this from happening, parents should have a program for the development of the child, accustoming him to an independent and adult life.
A psychological infantile is a child who is seduced by parents or society into the game «I am a little child.» To prevent this from happening, society and parents should be interested in raising truly adults.
Causes of internal and external
The main possible causes of psychological infantilism inside a child (and then an adult):
- inability to be an adult (no skills, experience and skills),
- there is no habit of being an adult (the ability to eat, but there may not be a habit),
- there is no desire to be an adult (it is more interesting and easier to be a child).
The main possible causes from the outside, from improper upbringing:
- restraining the independence of the child at a time when the child wanted independence.
- the unwillingness of the child to be independent and the permission (free or involuntary) of adults to be dependent on the child. May occur at any age. To prevent this from happening, parents should have a program for the development of the child, accustoming to independent and adult life. And for this — to be stronger than the child and be able to carry out their requirements.
- there is no need to be an adult and independent. Life is such that it is easy for a child who is not responsible for anything, there is no point or need to grow up.
Social causes of infantilism:
Children grow up correctly when they are supported by both maternal-feminine and paternal-male principles in education (see →). Today in Russian society there is a clear bias towards the feminine and, as a result, infantilism. See →
What needs to be generated
Children and adults begin to act like adults when they have:
- necessary experience, skills and abilities,
- adult behavior has become habitual for them,
- they have an interest or benefit in acting like adults,
- they have life values: «You need to be adults, it’s good to be adults.»
- they have a belief (beliefs) that in a given situation this is how they should behave,
- they have a personal self-identification “I am an adult! I manage to be independent and responsible!”
- the adult behavior of the child is reinforced and supported.
See Formation of Personality Qualities and Structure of Adult Personality
Independence Education
In order for our children (and sometimes already quite adults) to stop being children and become independent, it is important:
- create situations where independence is possible and within their power,
- create situations where independence and adulthood are prestigious and become attractive,
- create situations where independence is obligatory and simply forced.
See Education for Self-Reliance.