When you need to urgently help a seriously injured person, it is inadequate to talk about your feelings when meeting a famous person, even if for you it is very significant.
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Unconscious behavior usually turns out to be inappropriate behavior.
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The girl arrived at the sports camp, but in the detachment she deliberately behaves disgustingly to everyone: she stands when everyone is walking; suddenly yells and does not calm down, does not go to negotiations … If, it seems, this is normal behavior for her, then this is a personal inadequacy.
But the man — got drunk, began to make noise and pester others. This is situational inadequacy.
Appropriateness — meeting the requirements of the situation and the expectations of people. Adequacy in behavior is the ability to anticipate the actions of other participants in this environment and make their actions understandable and convenient for others. This is general adequacy, but besides it, there is social adequacy (the ability to be adequate in society: understanding the expectations of others, willingness to respond to them, knowledge and assimilation of social patterns). Separately, we can talk about personal adequacy — personal characteristics that contribute to general and social adequacy.
Inadequate can be called human behavior, if it does not meet the situation and the expectations of others, causes disruptions in communication.
Watch the video from the film «Korchak». When you urgently need to help a seriously injured person, it is inappropriate to talk about your feelings when meeting with a famous person, even if it is very significant for you.
Varieties of inappropriate behavior: victim behavior, deviant behavior, delinquent behavior, demonstrative behavior, conflict behavior, erroneous behavior. The adequacy or inadequacy of behavior depends on the elements that define it. In this regard, they talk about adequate (or not) perception, reactions, emotions, beliefs, orders, adequate self-esteem, and so on.
Whether a person is adequate or not, how adequate he is, largely depends on what level of development a person is and what requirements and expectations are placed on him. In one way or another, each of us is inadequate. In situations for which we are not prepared, our behavior may be inadequate. See →
If we are talking about inadequacy and the need for psycho-correction, it is necessary to understand the causes of the problems. Adequate behavior is, as a rule, conscious behavior. On the contrary, unconscious behavior, as a rule, turns out to be inadequate behavior. The reasons for inadequacy can be very diverse. A person may not know (not understand) the expectations addressed to him, he may have a rejection of these expectations, he may not be ready for the list or level of expectations presented to him. A person may have physical, mental or psychological problems that make him inadequate.
If a person as a whole is adequate, but wants to develop, increase his adequacy, then the main directions are a better understanding of the expectations addressed to him, an increase in agreement with the expectations, the development of his skills for better realization of the expectations. For effective people, adequacy includes the requirement of specificity, targeting and expediency:
- «Any belief must be expedient.» Why do you believe that a person said or did it on purpose?
- «Any emotion should be targeted and expedient.» To whom are you offended or angry, for what purpose, how effective is it?
- «Any order of the leader must be specific, targeted and expedient.»
To be adequate is to live according to the external guidelines of your reference group, to be what is required.