😉 Greetings to regular and new readers! Gentlemen, let’s talk about a topical topic – about feminism. In the article video.
What is feminism
“Feminism” from the Latin femina: “woman”. This is a women’s movement for the full equalization of women in rights with men. The year 1848 is considered the beginning of this movement. In the city of Seneca Falls, New York, a convention was held to defend the rights of women under the slogan “All women and men are created equal.”
Feminism is most often defined as a struggle for women’s rights. Then people who are accustomed to black and white toning have the impression that in order to give these rights to women, they need to be taken away from men. Therefore, it is more constructive to talk about feminism as a movement for women’s independence, their self-sufficiency.
That is, feminists and pro-feminist-minded men strive for as many of the fairer sex as possible to become independent. They could make their own decisions, have their own opinion and defend it, and finally – work for themselves and earn by their own labor.
This is the opposite of the traditional model of the patriarchal family, in which a woman may not dream of all these things. They pay for it, decide for it – they control it.
The motivation of women for such struggle and feminist propaganda is understandable. A significant part of the weaker sex no longer wants to put up with personal dependence and wants independence.
Independent women
However, feminists are not just independent ladies, but independent people who want independence for others as well. And then propaganda unfolds, and supporters of conservative values lose their peace.
The reasons why men should also join this movement remain unclear for many. What should motivate them to support women’s desire to become independent?
Why lose your privileged status and control, which seems to cement your family, your own business and even the state. Remember how someone advised women to return from politics to the kitchen?
For a small part of romantically minded men, appeals for humanity and justice will be sufficient. After all, everyone recognizes that in a civilized society there is no place for oppression, and resources and access to them should be distributed evenly?
It seems, yes. However, in a specific case, when it comes to, say, access to seats in parliament, even among the most gallant, objections begin. This is not for women, politics is a dirty business and so on. Therefore, on a wider scale, such calls for civilization and justice will not work.
In fact, an effective criterion for all men will be a Darwinian approach: men need to support women’s autonomy in order to survive.
In our society, which remains predominantly patriarchal (he leads – she obeys), men live 10-15 years less than women. Why?
If the answers are “because they work harder”, “because they drink more.” Then we get to the point, but still do not see the real essence of the problem.
Two climbers
Imagine two climbers climbing a sheer cliff, one of them constantly pulling the other on a rope. The partner does not insure him and does not help him – number one controls everything and is responsible for everything.
And, the first one has complete power over the second, theoretically, he can even unhook it and get rid of the load. But, if they do get to the top together. Who will get tired more and who, finally, has every chance to die on that summit?
The answer is obvious, as is the parallel. The patriarchal order, placing a woman in a dependent position, leads her to kitchen slavery. And he leads a man … to a heart attack.
Most girls are raised how? It doesn’t matter what you do – you would be lucky to find a good husband. Then he will be responsible for everything, and you can hide behind your “I don’t want to decide anything” at any moment.
And what do future husbands teach? You must provide! Everything depends on you! In order not to become a loser-loser, a man breaks against the impregnable walls of reality. And if he fails to maintain equilibrium, then resorts to the traditional way out in our realities. Suffers and drinks. The heart attack is close.
What about the statement that men should support their children ?! No, both parents have to support their children, both have to cope with household chores. Both must think about how to make money and what to spend.
If climbers on a rock will insure each other, then there is a high probability that they will not fall, they will be less tired. And then together at the top they will enjoy the beautiful landscape below.
Adrenaline and endorphins
It is better for her, besides “home”, to have her own opinion, her projects, her own profit. It is better for him, besides all this, to take on a particle of household chores and tinker with the children. Because it both pleases, and produces the endorphin necessary for happiness and life.
More adrenaline for women, more endorphin (a hormone of joy and pleasure) for men! These are the slogans that should be evolved over feminist demonstrations today.
Men, judging by the comments on the Internet and questions, are actively interested in this topic. However, in contrast to women who began the struggle for their adrenaline a long time ago, basically, they do not understand the depth of the problem.
All men in the office want success! There is nothing wrong with striving for success. It’s bad if only success is the goal of life. It is this way of posing the question that divides the world into the lucky and the unlucky.
And then, paradoxically, it doesn’t matter whether he has achieved it or not: in fact, it’s even easier for the successful to overstrain.
Therefore, I think the stronger sex should fetishize their success less and support the success of women more. Of course, not only those with whom there is a common stamp in the passport. From this, there will be more success, and less competition and tension.
And perhaps then for some time we will completely forget about this jungle language: struggle, survival, domination. No matter how many climbers the team consists, and whatever its composition, people on the sheer cliff of reality must support each other. It is logical, it is safe, and that is what is natural.
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