I convinced the maniac not to blow up the Silver Tower, but I can’t persuade my wife to leave the bedroom and drive my daughter away from the phone!
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Who does not know how to negotiate, lives either alone, or has constant conflicts.
The general requirement is mental health. Here we will include a positive worldview, not a tendency to defend, possession of a calm presence, extraversion (focusing not on oneself, but on a partner).
The ability to negotiate consists of the following lines:
- Ability to listen and hear.
- Find out what your partner wants.
- Be able to clearly articulate what you want, what you need. Formulate (at least for yourself) this positively and clearly. Not “what doesn’t suit me”, but “what I want”, and not in general “so that everything is fine with us” and “so that you treat me carefully”, but “I want you not to interrupt me (went for groceries )». See specifics in requests
- Total YES
- To speak out without conflicts, even more so without gu.e.sti — no matter what the emotions and states are.
- The position of cooperation, even better — the format of the WE family. Without a struggle for power, without revenge, with a desire to take into account the interests of both sides.
Anyone who has tried to negotiate with love (performing the exercise “If I loved”), everyone confirms that against this background it is always easier to negotiate. A very practical exercise!
The right to mental protection
In civilized families, within the framework of the ability to negotiate, the right to the protection of the psyche is recognized: We raise difficult, unpleasant and painful topics only for constructive discussion, and, as a rule, in writing. See →
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