A woman is a victim of her feelings and states

Correspondence with Alina

I don’t know what Alina’s daughter is, I don’t know what kind of person her mother is, and I don’t have any facts to seriously judge their relationship. Internet consultations are an extremely controversial thing … However, this fragment from the correspondence is interesting: track how firmly Alina places herself in the position of the Victim: she cannot do anything herself, it all depends on her mother (external circumstance) and internal circumstances (pressure on Alina feelings of guilt and Alina’s lack of spirit, self-confidence, mental strength). Stand in the position of the Author, turn on your head and do what you need to do — no, this is not Alina’s intentions … It’s easier to complain and suffer. So,

Alina

Now I have a difficult task — to part with my mother, who asked to live 6 months ago, and now decided to stay forever. I know it sounds silly — an adult 37-year-old woman cannot agree with her mother. And here I am in a trap. Requests and persuasion do not help — she only becomes more impudent, interferes in my life. And you know, I don’t even have enough imagination what to come up with.

She has her own apartment, she rents it out, lives on this money and is happy. I’m like in a trap — until she eats, she won’t leave.

I understand that I put myself this way, I don’t feel any strength behind me, my daughter and son are also depressed.

We are not victims to wait for mercy, but it is not clear what to do.

Maybe you can tell me how to perk up, because it’s even embarrassing to write, I’m a psychologist myself, but I can’t agree with my mother.

N.I.