Contents
- What happens during therapy?
- What kind of clients turn to a sexologist? Can I come alone (alone)?
- But is it inconvenient to tell a stranger about intimate life?
- What problems do people most often talk about when they turn to a sexologist?
- Will there be “homework” from the therapist?
- Therapy can really help.
To decide on a visit to a sexologist for many is still not easy. What’s going on in this office? We have collected the most popular questions from clients and answers from sex therapists.
What happens during therapy?
Leave your fantasies, sex doesn’t happen in a sexologist’s office.
“Some clients are surprised and disappointed not to see vibrators and other sex toys in the office,” says sex therapist Kimberly Resnick Anderson.
As Resnick Anderson explains, sex therapy is a type of psychotherapy that focuses on issues related to sexuality: feelings, ideas, behavior.
Any sexual contacts during therapy with a sexologist are excluded
– I try to interpret the sexual possibilities, expectations and satisfaction of the client, taking into account his life history, including sexual. Of course, we sometimes discuss “risky” topics, including very intimate details, but any sexual contacts in the process of therapy with a sexologist are excluded, she says.
What kind of clients turn to a sexologist? Can I come alone (alone)?
“Different people turn to sexologists, you can come alone, without a partner,” says sexologist Megan Fleming. – They come to me both together and one by one. There are clients of any age, any sexual orientation, any ethnic and religious background.
But is it inconvenient to tell a stranger about intimate life?
The thought of having to discuss your sex life with a stranger can make you feel uncomfortable. Most clients feel uncomfortable at the beginning of their work.
Isn’t it better to discuss erection problems with a professional instead of complaining to a friend?
– When a new client enters the office, my first task is to create a comfortable atmosphere for him so that he can calmly discuss his problems. Sex is a taboo topic, and most people are ashamed of their sexuality, says sexologist Keely Rankin. “But isn’t it better to discuss erection problems with a professional instead of complaining to your best friend?”
What problems do people most often talk about when they turn to a sexologist?
Specialists have to work with different problems, but some are most common.
For example, what? Decreased libido, mismatched sexual needs of partners, erection problems, premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation in men, and problems with arousal, orgasm, and pain during sex in women.
Clients also come with problems that are related to behavior, not physiology
“Clients also come with problems that are related to behavior, not physiology: addiction to pornography, difficulty resuming sexual relations after infidelity,” says sexologist Ian Kerner.
Will there be “homework” from the therapist?
Yes. He or she may refer you for further examinations by a doctor to rule out medical causes for your problems.
– When the sexologist understands what is happening with the client, he can begin to give certain tasks – for example, something to read, try or do. Therapy should be focused on getting results, and the therapist should constantly monitor the progress of the client, says sexologist and family therapist Gracie Landes.
Therapy can really help.
– Most feel some relief after the first session. The therapist may need a few more sessions to decide on a treatment plan, but the first meeting with a specialist will help restore hope for healing, says psychologist and psychotherapist Stefanie Buhler.