I am glad to welcome you, dear readers of the blog! Recently, I learned about such a thing as a stuck personality type. In this matter, Alina Zhuravina helped me figure it out. She is a professional psychologist and Gestalt therapist. I won’t talk for a long time, let’s study together what it is.
Description
From the name itself, it is not difficult to guess about the main feature of such people, that is, the ability to dwell on some event or feeling for a long time. It is also called affective-stagnant, and all because experiences that go off scale in their intensity are usually short-lived, but not in this case. Thoughts are constantly scrolling in the head, which gives a new wave of feelings.
To make it clearer, I will give an example: if a person with a different type of character is angered and not given the opportunity to show this anger, then no matter how strong it is, the next day it will definitely turn into irritation or resentment, regret, perhaps sadness. But the person who gets stuck, as soon as he remembers this situation, will again feel the same aggression, as if everything had just happened.
Therefore, even if you accidentally offend such a person, be sure that he will definitely take revenge, but he will not feel much relief. She will not be able to let go and forgive, therefore, until the end of her days, she will remember this incident. This type of accentuation does not like injustice very much, only in relation to itself, therefore, if someone infringes on his pride or pride, trouble cannot be avoided.
He is also called vindictive and touchy.
Because it is very vulnerable, despite all the power of the presented affects. And if you objectively consider some situation, any other person will not see the reasons for such reactions, but for an affective person they will be significant. He is insatiable in terms of encouragement, praise, does not experience a sense of saturation in these topics.
More than other species are prone to paranoia. Since the constant control of the behavior of other people in relation to oneself leads to suspicion, which just over time threatens to develop into psychosis.
The stuck type is also prone to jealousy, especially in couples where the other partner indulges in flirting and flirting. In this case, there will be no trust in him, and all attempts to prove his loyalty will be useless.
Such people love clarity, so they divide everything into “white” and “black”, “good” and “bad” … Because of this splitting, it is difficult for them to adapt to any changes. True, in their opinion, it can only be on one side, although in fact, if you look at the situation, each participant in the conflict can have it. It is important to be able to hear the other and find a compromise, and not stubbornly prove your own.
What to do?
Deep work on oneself, awareness of one’s difficulties and correction of types of reactions to any stimuli can help. That is, it is important to learn to test your fantasies and experiences with reality, asking the so-called offender for what purpose he committed some act, and whether he really planned to injure, cause damage.
According to Leonhard, an affectively stuck type of character accentuation is able to achieve tremendous success and realize its goals, if only because, believing in its idea, it is ready to go ahead, especially if it has to prove the loyalty of its position. Therefore, depending on the predominance of either ambition or suspicion, how his life will be arranged depends. Indeed, cases are not uncommon when, on the basis of jealousy and resentment, such people committed crimes, destroying their “enemies”.
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