Pedagogical schizophrenia.
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In this parenting model, the child is surrounded by a large number of seemingly strict prohibitions, but prohibitions that can actually be violated. When and how you will be punished for this is unknown.
Mom screams: “You can’t run here, don’t run!”, But after that the child continues to run, and mom only sighs.
In such an environment, the child lives as if in a fog, where he is surrounded on all sides by constraining things and walls, but through which you can break through. They seem to be there, they are frightening — but if you reach out or pass through them — they are not.
However, in this foggy space, explosions often suddenly occur: when the parents’ nerves fail, they suddenly flare up, start screaming, yelling, they can slap, pull, really forbid something — but then the explosion subsides, and then the fog until the next unpredictable flash and another explosion.
What is the result of a child being in such a strange and foggy world? All children develop disrespect for prohibitions and complete disorientation of what is possible and what is not. Indeed, the children were told “no”, but no one pays attention to this and everyone does everything, and you, if you obeyed this “no”, you walk like a fool with clean ears, and everyone else is normal.
As for the formation of character, much depends on the personality of the child. Active and quick-witted children in such a situation learn to be cunning and dodge, learn to lie and disobey adults. Less smart children from this pedagogical schizophrenia develop low self-esteem, apathy and confusion, children become nervous — both from unexpected parental outbursts and from a situation of complete uncertainty, when nothing can be relied on.
Need advice? Choose a more suitable parenting model for yourself and accustom yourself to implement it. Options to choose from: «Clean field, dense forest: natural education», «Spacious house: a world of reasonable restrictions», «Spacious house with a development line», «Narrow corridor, iron gauntlets: tough education.»
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