A man with a child: why doesn’t he introduce you?

You know that the chosen one has children, you want to get to know them, but he is in no hurry to take this step. Why? The reasons may be different. Let’s try to figure out how he feels.

He’s not that close to you

He wants to be sure the relationship has a future before letting the kids in. Even if he hopes that you are the woman with whom life will connect, a lot of questions arise. How will you communicate with his children? Do you agree that the well-being of children will always be his top priority? If you also have a child, won’t his children be jealous if they find out that he spends time with them?

When will he take this step? The more you get to know each other, the more confidently he will be able to answer these questions. Give him time.

He doesn’t take relationships seriously

Perhaps a man likes you, but he is not sure that he can get along with his children. Or maybe it’s not about you: after the divorce, he does not want to enter into a relationship that involves obligations. Its purpose is to have a good time.

When will he take this step? Alas, perhaps never. Even if you feel the strength to change the situation and are ready to wait, you must respect his choice. Do not blackmail him: «If you really love me, then …» — such ultimatums will only strengthen his decision not to include children in a relationship.

He didn’t get divorced

When you first started dating, he was in the mood for a relationship. But, although you are still dear to him, he realized that it will take time to heal mental wounds and emotionally recover (even if he initiated the divorce).

When will he take this step? Most likely, despite the hesitation, he needs warmth, intimacy and does not want to part with you. Perhaps in time he will be ready for the next step. Whether what he has to offer here and now is enough is up to you.

He’s ready, it’s just not the right time

Even if he has no doubts about a joint future, he may be bound by agreements with his ex-wife. After the divorce, she could set the period that, in her opinion, the children needed before getting to know the new chosen ones of the parents. Maybe formally there is no such agreement, but he feels that the children are not yet ready for the meeting.

When will he take this step? Is the fact that he doesn’t introduce you to the kids the only thing that worries you? You feel important to him. If so, give it time.

He walks away from the conflict with his ex-wife

He would be happy to introduce you, but he is afraid of the possible reaction of his ex-wife, the relationship with which resembles military operations. Your appearance will cause a new round of conflicts, from which he is already tired, so you have to follow the path of least resistance.

When will he take this step? His ex says that the child is not ready to meet you, but often this means that she herself is not able to accept the fact of your appearance. If she is ready for a dialogue and admits that one day your meeting with the children will still happen (and the man is not afraid to initiate such conversations), you should show patience and tact. It is worse if a man follows the lead of his ex-wife and prefers to hide you.

He is tormented by guilt

After a divorce, many feel guilty for causing suffering to children, and try to protect them from new shocks. Your appearance may, as it seems to him, break the unsteady stability and calmness.

When will he take this step? Perhaps, over time, he will feel that both the children and, above all, he himself is ready for this step. If the ex-wife gets ahead of him and introduces her new chosen one herself, it will be easier for him to decide on this step.