A happy life CAN be planned if you learn how to do it!
You need to start small — with a simple planning of the next tasks that you will still complete, but it will be better if they are not completed randomly, not in a park, but strictly according to plan: point by point, point by point. Measured … every day … and not in bulk — at the end of the week with his tongue hanging out on his shoulder.
Yes, at the end of the week you can tighten up and make up for what was left to chance during the week … But if you get used to living like this, then unfortunately, after some years, for example, at forty years, it is difficult to catch up on what you spent the last ten, fifteen, or even and twenty years: your education, your career, your personal life, having children… a lot of things can be squandered. And in order not to squander — you need to learn to plan life. Learn to sum up — your month, your year, your decade ..
“But how to plan life if it is full of surprises?!”
Just like you plan your route to work. You leave an hour before the start of the working day, having outlined — by public transport or by private car. Of course, anything can happen along the way. But nevertheless, we all plan to leave at a certain time on a certain route. Anything can happen in life too. But the influence of chance on our lives is actually not as great as one can imagine, justifying a mediocre life lived. I repeat once again: the influence of accidents is not too radical! But planning itself is a very effective way to eliminate many accidents.
A person who does not plan his life — he does not prepare for the challenges that life will inevitably offer him, he trusts himself in the hands of all sorts of accidents, and in fact and most often, to strangers who even have plans for him, and they by no means to improve his fate. The plans of outsiders are aimed at solving their own problems, at improving their own lives and those people who are part of their inner circle.
“How do I know how fate will decide, how it will turn out?” Forget this mantra! Fate won’t work out if you don’t put it together! And in order to put it down, for this there must be a plan to achieve your goals. Some say — but I have no goals … Yes, many do not have goals, because they are too lazy to make their dreams a goal! And everyone has dreams — we all know that! All are visionaries and dreamers! The main thing is to understand that dreams should not only be dreamed, but also planned, how I will invest in dreams!
“I want to be loved and have a happy family!” — it’s a dream. But the daily actions planned by you to work on your Image, on your skills to attract wonderful people into your life and make an indelible impression on them — this is already the control of your destiny.
Girls working at the Distance write a plan for every day and, most importantly, check that there are points not only for solving short-term problems, but also long-term ones.
If there are items in the daily plan for solving long-term tasks, then there is no need to write plans to resolve the problems and troubles that have piled up. Moreover, it is quite difficult for women, due to gender reasons, to get out of problems. It is much, much easier and more efficient for girls to move towards tasks. Because with the planned movement towards their tasks, the girls gradually accumulate all the necessary resources, but when solving problems, all the resources should already be there! But if they were, then there would be no problems! So, they are not. This means that they will have to be found, pumped under the most difficult conditions. Yes, the girls cope with this too — when life kicks in well, many clever beauties finally have a second wind, they, thank God, get tired of rotten!
But I’m for not kicking us! We are not a “proud hedgehog”! We are reasonable people, we know how to plan and we know how to force ourselves to plan! And over time, we get used to it)))) and we live very happily according to our happy plans!
I repeat again:
People who write plans are always moving towards the goal and they never have to run away from problems, because there simply are no problems in their lives!
A problem is a task facing you, for which you do not have resources, because for some period of your life, you lived as you live, without thinking about anything, without seeing, or rather, without even trying to look at least half a step ahead !
When planning life, we understand what resources we need to accumulate, what opportunities to strengthen and develop in advance.
Girls always face the most important question for women’s happiness: what resource will you develop that will replace, effectively compensate for the passing youth?
Many of my clients in complete lack of resources at the age of forty are overtaken by this question! And what could be done for fifteen years calmly and measuredly until the onset of forty years (which are a very important female beauty) and after forty to live just as happily — all this has to be done in the most severe mode and self-discipline after forty.
Dear girls, plan your life, your resources! Learn, in general, to see them — your resources. Many girls think that they will be able to live their whole lives in relationships with men in the same format in which they interact from 18 to 25 years old, not realizing that at this moment they are simply equipped with a resource that becomes less and less every year. . Alas, girls, the format will change — and from 28 to 38 it will be a different format, and after forty-third. These formats will be no less beautiful if you are ready for them! To do this, you need to know what a man wants from a woman aged 28 to 38, what he expects from a woman who is over forty, what skills, what attitude to life.
“Is a modern man ready to see a forty-year-old kept woman on his neck?” — if a girl at 25 did not think about this, did not get a profession, then how will she solve this issue at 40? Will hopefully hide behind children? Girls, as a consultant with a very long experience, I will tell you: it will not work! As soon as the resource of youth ends, there must be a resource of professionalism and one’s own good financial stability! Otherwise, you won’t get respect from a man! An unstable, stupid, addicted whore in adulthood causes only irritation.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.