The most important happiness in a person’s life is his children. At least the majority of women on the planet think so. Despite the difficulties of carrying and the horrors of childbirth, the mother loves her child unconditionally. And dad loves his wife for giving him the most expensive gift in the world. And so we asked ourselves whether a man should financially thank a woman for the appearance of a baby.
“Why didn’t my husband give anything for the birth of a child? – Mummy asks sadly at the women’s forum. – Although he loves, he was expecting a baby. Only flowers – that’s all. It’s even insulting. “
“And I am doubly offended. Wore problems, gave birth – cut. Then all one and one turned, did not help at all. The child is already three years old. He never gave anything. Probably, many simply do not understand what kind of business it is – to endure and in the throes of giving birth to a child for several hours, and then from weakness they can hardly crawl. Of course, I gave birth to him for myself too. But my contribution is undoubtedly higher. So why not please me? I just need gratitude, even if it is in the form of a gift, ”the other echoes her.
In the comments, opinions were divided. Someone brags about diamonds and gadgets, someone drove a car to the threshold of the hospital, tied with a bow and with the signature “Thank you for your daughter”, and someone shrugged their shoulders and said that this was all nonsense. “Do you want a memory? You – a tag from the hospital to watch and remember, to your husband – a lock of hair. After all, he also became a parent, and you didn’t give him a car, an apartment, or an island in the Caribbean ”.
We decided to find out what mothers and fathers with many children, who went through fire, water and childbirth, think about a gift for childbirth. Maybe you really need to give, but men just don’t know about it? Or is it not necessary, and all these grievances are just a whim from a lack of attention?
Marina Vargulevich, mother of three children: “A gift is not an obligation and can be absolutely anything, but on such a happy day, I think, you can pamper your beloved woman.”
But Marina Bikmambetova, mother of four daughters, thinks differently: “Of course it shouldn’t. The child is the result of the love of the spouses, the highest degree of trust in each other. Both mother and father are equally pleased with the baby, he in himself is the most valuable gift in the world. Of course, if the husband considers it possible, he can give his wife something special for the birth of a child, just like for any other reason. But he definitely shouldn’t. Because he should have something completely different – protection (from stress including), resource provision (house, food, clothes), give his mother a rest, respite, teach the child the skills of life. “
Elena Neginskaya, mother of four children, shared her secret: “My husband was with me all four times – both during natural childbirth and during operations. He saw, he passed, he felt. For him it was the greatest responsibility, and he could not afford to wait out the moment somewhere. And the gifts that my beloved gave me are not caused by the feeling ‘I have to give something’, it is his natural desire to bring a little joy and a sense of magic. “
“Sure! The most valuable thing is children! The wife gives life to the child, and the husband must also do something pleasant and memorable. Jewelry is what you need, ”Andrei Sinyutin, father of two, did not hesitate for a second.
Three times Pope Alexander Misyurin: “Childbirth is a titanic work that cannot be appreciated as a gift. We need an order. There is no better reason to show your woman love and gratitude. “
The father of four children, Alexander Gerasimenko, also has his own opinion: “A gift to a beloved woman as a sign of gratitude for the continuation of the family must be done. But we must not forget about helping around the house and raising children. “
We came across only one man who asked in surprise: “What, is it necessary?” Perhaps he was just confused. After all, the tradition is to thank a woman for a baby – she is from a family. Not everyone has one. And there are men who don’t make surprises at all. They just do not know how, it does not occur to them. So everything is individual here. If you want a gift, hint at it.
“After the birth of each of us,” says Tatyana Medvedeva, “as a sign of endless gratitude and love for mom, dad gave her gifts. These were gold jewelry – a ring, a watch and a chain with a pendant. He died tragically three months after the birth of my younger sister. And, even though my mother had no money, she did not sell this memory of her father’s love. According to her, looking at these jewelry, every time she recalls the insanely happy and such tender eyes of her father, who was very much looking forward to his son, but was grateful to his mother for the birth of each daughter. “
– I believe that this always remains at the internal discretion of the family. And, fair enough, there should be gifts for both mom and dad. On the child’s birthday, they both change their status and become parents. And of course, this day should be a holiday for the whole family. I am a supporter of having balloons, a cake, flowers, and joy on their faces at the time of discharge.