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“A divorcee with a trailer” is a rude, but quite popular expression on the Internet. It is used when talking about a divorced woman with a child. At the same time, in Russia, according to demographic statistics, there are fewer men than women. Who do children stay with after a divorce? In the vast majority of cases with a woman. So what happens, is RSP a sentence for a happy family life?
Of course, the Internet meme “divorced woman with a trailer” is nothing more than manipulation of the mass consciousness, and no sentence at all. Hundreds of thousands of women remarry and have a great life in a new marriage.
And I am direct proof of this: my current man adores my daughter, and she calls him dad. At the same time, I love my husband’s children from my first marriage and always create an atmosphere in which they will be comfortable.
However, many girls after breaking up despair, decide that no one else will look at them, and become depressed. A huge role in this is played by society, which reduces our self-esteem. What to do in such a situation?
There are three simple rules for dealing with manipulators.
1. Protect your personal boundaries
When you hear something like: “Who needs you, a divorcee with a trailer! Men don’t need their own children, and even more so for strangers, ”then at this moment there is no need to be silent. Say: “Thank you very much for your concern, but I am an adult, independent woman and I will decide for myself whether someone needs me or not.”
Thus, you will put an end to this discussion, depriving the interlocutor of the opportunity to speak about you in a similar vein.
2. Work on your self-esteem
If you really think that because of the child you are less likely to meet your love, then you definitely need to work with a psychologist. If there are no funds, then a simple evidence base can be collected.
Find at least 100 cases on the Internet when women your age got married and lived wonderfully, combining happy motherhood and a prosperous marriage. Find examples when influential, status, respected men raised their wife’s children from their first marriage and considered them family, treated them well, and were proud of their achievements.
Realize the insignificance of the position held by critics, haters and those who use the expression «trailer divorcee». These people are driven not by the desire to build their own lives, but by the need to offend someone. What are they willing to spend all their energy on?
Happy people don’t care about strangers. And we can only feel sorry for the unfortunate haters who are not able to leave others alone and waste time (the most precious thing we have!) on malicious comments on the Internet.
When communicating with provocateurs, do not show your emotions and do not give in to them. Don’t argue or argue your point. And in no case do not take other people’s words personally. Everything they say is solely their position. And it may differ from yours. As they say, life will show.
I wish all women love, self-confidence and harmony in families. High self-esteem is what will allow everyone (no matter what experience you have behind you, how many years, how many children) to get married and be happy. Build the relationship of your dreams and grow in that alliance. After all, children are one of women’s advantages and, in my opinion, the greatest human joy!