Contents
- “The Mother Factor”
- “Stop raising children, help them grow”
- “Book number 1 about raising children. Communicate with the child. How?”
- #Your boy – more love, less panic. How not to go crazy raising a son
- “How to talk so kids will listen and how to listen so kids will talk”
- “Don’t program the child. How our words affect the fate of children
Immediately after September 1, the feeling of a holiday is replaced by school days. Parents, like children, feel tired and anxious. Together with experts, we have selected 6 books from the assortment of the Chitay-gorod store that will help you enjoy your studies and keep it for many months.
“The Mother Factor”
Authors: Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
The main driver of any business is motivation. It has the magical ability to simplify tasks, reduce time and give a second wind when strength is running out. With the school in this regard, not everything is so simple, because many perceive it as a given, or even a boring duty. Therefore, the first thing to do is to change the perspective from the school as such to the opportunities that education provides. Discuss with your child why it is worth studying, seriously listening to his answers. A friendly conversation on an equal footing is a very important point, because adult arguments like a good university and a comfortable existence are simply incomprehensible to a child, and their endless repetition is not the mother of teaching at all, but of excessive tension.
Quote: “Intrusiveness means approaching without being invited. An annoying person is in a hurry to make premature contact, unwanted or not yet needed. Women of this type do not enter into a genuine relationship with the child, but under the guise of emotional contact impose their own needs, feelings and thoughts on him. In this way, they are trying to control the child, ”the authors of the book note. .
“Stop raising children, help them grow”
Authors: Nina Nekrasova, Zaryana Nekrasova.
A strong and often underestimated motivation is the child’s innate curiosity – he is attracted not only by knowledge, but also by getting to know other children, changing environments, new contacts and communication models that the school offers. The task of parents is not to quench this thirst for new things with excessive control and to celebrate every small discovery with joy, even if it is the tenth of the day and “frivolous” by your standards.
Quote: “The truth is that the children don’t really owe us anything. Neither repeat our path, nor choose our cause, nor realize our unfulfilled dreams, ”the authors of the book authoritatively assert .
“Book number 1 about raising children. Communicate with the child. How?”
Author: Julia Gippenreiter.
Comfortable conditions for studying are not limited to buying a large table and the right lighting. It is also a competent planning of the day, in which there is a place not only for school and homework, but also for relaxation and entertainment.
Quote: “Come up with a few activities with the child or a few family activities, traditions that will create a zone of joy. Make some of these activities or activities regular so that the child looks forward to them and knows that they will definitely come if he does not do something very bad. Cancel them only if there has been an offense, really tangible, and you are really upset. However, do not threaten to cancel them over trifles,” the author advises. .
#Your boy – more love, less panic. How not to go crazy raising a son
Author: Marianna Mileiko.
Mistakes and failures are an inevitable part of life, and there is nothing tragic about most of them. Therefore, let the child be imperfect (like you and everyone else). This does not mean that systematic deuces should be “slowed down”. What is worth it is to consider the fault in the context of events, listening to the child’s explanations, and separating the person from his act.
Quote: “Respect for the child is also manifested in trust in him. To the fact that he can, cope, understand. How many times have I heard from my parents: “No, what are you, my own will not go to school! He’s so dumb, he can’t do anything on his own! To the store by yourself? What are you! He won’t be able to!” This is an absolute disrespect for the child, reducing him to the level of a domestic hamster, a creature incapable of being a person, taking care of himself, being responsible for his actions,” the author writes. .
“How to talk so kids will listen and how to listen so kids will talk”
Authors: Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.
Trusting relationships in the family is a separate big topic, which is reflected both in the school time of the child, and throughout life. Your child is a different person with their own feelings, thoughts and emotions. Let him go his own way and always be ready to support.
Quote: “One of the ways to reduce a child’s dependence on the family is to show him that there is a large society nearby with its own useful resources, which is just waiting to be contacted. The world is not a place alien to us. He can help when needed, ”says the author of the book .
“Don’t program the child. How our words affect the fate of children
Authors: Roberta Cavallo, Antonio Panarese.
There is a wise saying that happy parents do not have to do anything special to raise happy children. The child unconsciously copies your way of thinking, attitude to life and study in particular. Therefore, it is worth working on yourself, releasing yesterday’s baby into the big world – and trusting him. Both the world and the child.
Quote: “Children should not be “well done”. They have to be themselves!” – the authors of the book remind .
Books can be purchased at the Chitay-gorod online store.