All of us at least once in our lives forgot to fulfill someone else’s request or returned home later than promised. But this does not always mean that you cannot rely on us. Do you trust your partner? Here are a few tips to lean on before making judgments.
Trust in a couple is not only the confidence that the partner will not cheat on you. It is also important whether he respects your agreements regarding money, the distribution of household chores, watching adult films, drinking alcohol and other substances …
And trust is the realization that you are comfortable and safe with him physically, emotionally and sexually. And the belief that he will not let you down – neither by accident, nor even more so deliberately. And while, according to Hemingway, “the best way to trust someone is to just trust them,” here are a few signs to look out for.
A partner you can trust doesn’t try to control who you hang out with and what you do in your free time
1. He asks you about what’s going on with you and talks about himself.
A trustworthy partner doesn’t expect you to learn to read his mind and shares what’s on his mind with you, even if he has a hard time talking about his feelings. And he makes every effort to stay up to date with what is happening to you.
2. He gives you his phone without any problems
For example, so that you check the route while he is driving. He has absolutely nothing to hide. And the fact that you will see who writes to him and about what is not a problem for him.
3. He gives you the freedom to be yourself.
A trusted partner doesn’t try to control who you hang out with and what you do in your spare time. With him, you can calmly and without embarrassment share what worries you, knowing that you will be listened to without judgment, consoled and supported. Such a person does not criticize or ridicule. He loves and accepts you for being you.
4. He cares about you and your self-esteem and tries to maintain
For example, if you are not too happy with your body and feel embarrassed during intimacy, turn off the lights and try not to change clothes in front of your partner, he will make every effort to carefully and tactfully assure you that there is nothing to worry about, that you are beautiful.
And if such a partner upsets you with something or somehow lets you down, he repents and sincerely asks for forgiveness
5. He touches you
And not just during sex. Your intimacy is maintained on all levels, including the body.
6. People around him trust him.
Friends, buddies, colleagues, parents – it seems that all of them, without delay, share their secrets with such a person, knowing that he will not blurt them out. Which means you can do the same.
7. He doesn’t run away from responsibility.
Such a partner does not perceive you as a “nanny” who will tell you in time that it is time to wrap up with work or drinking alcohol. He takes responsibility for his actions – and for mistakes too. And if such a partner upsets you or somehow brings you down, he repents and sincerely asks for forgiveness.
8. He asks, but does not arrange interrogations
He seeks to learn about what you think and feel. Because he cares, not because he suspects you of something and does not trust you.
9. He is there when you need him.
…Whatever happens to you. And you, most likely, strive to do the same for him.