Women who have achieved success in various fields – actresses, politicians, producers, CEOs, writers – on how to respond to criticism, speak and act with faith in themselves and turn off the “perfectionism gene” that prevents us from living and creating to the fullest strength.
About self-confidence
“I like female bosses who don’t worry about what their subordinates think of them, who don’t wait for approval and support for everything they say, each time ending their statement with the words: “Is that normal? Good?”
I like those who act bravely in the face of unimaginable circumstances, like my mother when she was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer. Or The New York Times journalist Gabrielle Giffords, when she writes columns about the cowardice of the US Congress on the issue of gun laws and uses statements like “and mark my words” like some Clint Eastwood. How many women do we know who can talk like that?”
Mindy Kayling, actress
“Instead of asking questions apologetically, start speaking in affirmations. Think about it, none of us would want to be seen by a doctor who says something like this: “Am I going to operate on you? I’m here to tell you how the operation will go? I graduated from medical school with honors, so what? Establish with your actions and voice.”
Tina Fey, actress, producer
About criticism
“If you face criticism at work because of your appearance, your age, or because you are a woman, or someone doesn’t like your political or religious beliefs, ask yourself the question: “Can this person prevent me from doing what I want?” If the answer is no, ignore the criticism and move on along the chosen path. It is better to put your energy into the business – so you will quickly overtake them. And then, when you take the helm, do not hire people who have behaved badly towards you.
Tina fey
“Yes, the more successful or strong you are, persistent in expressing your views, the less others will like you. For no reason, they will begin to think that you are too boastful, arrogant and generally pull the blanket over yourself. But power and self-realization, sincerity and loyalty to oneself are worth it.”
Jessica Valenti, feminist, blogger
About the “Perfectionism Gene”
“I think that many young women are hindered from moving forward and truly discovering their talent by the “perfectionism gene”. Try changing your approach: instead of striving for perfection, aim for doing everything “generally well.” Remind yourself that you don’t have to be perfect. Most men never suffer from this. Their approach is simple: determine where the opportunity is and how to “catch” it. They don’t think, “Oh my God, I’m not perfect, I have terrible hair today, I’m wearing the wrong shoes.”
Hillary Clinton, politician
“The show goes on not because everything is ready and in perfect order, but because you can’t fall out of the schedule. When I was writing humorous sketches in a weekly mode for a TV show, I realized an important thing – it is unrealistic to produce an equally good product all the time. Yes, you are destined to write brilliant things that you will be proud of. But you will also write bad lyrics. And, unfortunately, sometimes they will also be aired. You don’t have to worry about this. On Monday you will come to work and you can start mining gold again – the main thing is to understand the difference between gold and crap.
Tina fey
“In order not to stray from the right path of life, you will have to reconsider your principles and transfer some, at first glance, important things to the category of unimportant ones. If the desire to always please a disgusting boss is more important to you than spending time with your children. Or perfect cleanliness in the house is more important than getting enough sleep and gaining strength, then get ready for a long and exhausting battle with fate.
Martha Beck, sociologist, coach
About hard work
“Inspiration usually comes during work, not before it.”
Madeline Langle, writer
“Whatever problem you have to solve, be part of the solution. Don’t sit back and ask questions and point out obstacles.”
Tina fey
Source: cupofjo.com