9 parameters of women that men fall in love with

Hello, dear readers, and maybe even readers of the blog! Today we will look at which women men fall in love with. Of course, everyone has different tastes and preferences. But there are certain characteristics that rarely leave anyone indifferent.

Communication skills and openness have, inspire confidence

Cold and, as they say, women-mysteries seem to beckon, but mostly gambling men. As soon as the excitement passes, the interest in it disappears. The more hopes to discover some feature, zest — the greater the disappointment later.

Just think, with whom would it be more pleasant for you to communicate, with a young man who cannot say a couple of words, relying on appearance, or with someone who is able to keep up the conversation, talks about himself, asks questions about you and so on?

Intimacy arises only in the give-and-take process, when people are connected by some personal information, common events and the ability to trust.

In 1997, Professor Aron Arthur conducted an interesting experiment. He divided the students into heterosexual couples. Their task was to answer sincerely 36 questions, quite personal.

Aron believed that involvement in someone else’s life is very close. A story about yourself allows you to see each other as true, as they are. And he turned out to be right. Almost all participants in the experiment fell in love, most of them even went to the registry office soon after.

If the first thing we pay attention to is appearance, then with closer communication, the ability to maintain an interesting dialogue is decisive, which causes a desire to meet again.

Self-esteem should not be overestimated or underestimated

A woman with adequate self-esteem will not be jealous over trifles, check the phone, delve into personal things and control every step.

Believe me, not only men are afraid of such treatment, they have not yet brought happiness to anyone. Although these “acts” are performed as if in the name of love. But in fact, control and love are completely different concepts and have never even stood next to each other.

Most are repulsed by inaccessibility

Almost everyone is afraid of rejection. Think for yourself, who, being in their right mind, will enjoy being «sent»? The one who pretends that he doesn’t care — either he’s lying, or the person who rejected him was not particularly important.

For example, pick-up artists, those who learn to seduce the opposite sex. They rely on quantity, not quality, which is why each failure only spurs them on to invent new ways that they will definitely “peck”.

But if you think about it, none of those who agreed with them on a date and so on could not touch the feelings. If only because it is impossible, pick-up artists are, in fact, people who are not capable of intimacy, they are afraid of it due to various traumatic events from the past, which led to the idea that feeling is painful and bad.

So, not every man is able to take a chance and get acquainted with a lady who, with her whole appearance, shows how impregnable she is. There are very few such brave, challenging ones. And then, you already understood who makes up their number.

And really standing guys who are ready to build a healthy and happy relationship can pass by. No one wants to feel rejected or devalued once again.

Fear of loneliness is «read»

This refers to when a woman does not care who is next to her, just not to be alone. When out of fear of being alone, she is ready to run into any relationship.

And you don’t have to talk about it. Sometimes the person himself does not understand that he is trying to «escape» from the fear of loneliness. It is read subconsciously by others. They can’t explain why, but they try to stay away.

Remain basically the same, dependent on relationships.

Therefore, those who know how to live a rich life, be happy and without a chosen one are valued. Who have interests and life plans, hobbies.

The ability to listen and hear is a great bonus in a relationship.

When we are understood and heard, there is a desire to open up and open up even more, right?

And if you are only able to speak, not attaching importance to the words of the interlocutor — do not rely on mutual feelings. Building trust is not easy, but it is possible. And if you manage to do this, consider that you have a chance to become happy in a couple.

So where there is trust, there is respect. Accordingly, you will become closer and more valuable to each other.

You can take a listening test to determine if you really know how to do it.

A sense of humor and similar interests allow you to get closer

Although even cardinal differences in hobbies can be closed eyes, if you can laugh heartily with her. Life is quite a difficult thing, which is why the most valuable moments are those when you can afford to relax and have fun. Indeed, lightness and ease are sometimes worth a lot.

It is clear that anecdotes alone cannot win over the person you like. But if you have a good sense of humor, it will be a great bonus to the rest of the benefits.

And mutual banter with each other will strengthen the union, being a kind of “bridge”, which, quite possibly, will help to maintain contact more than once in the future.

Positive thinking is conducive, negative thinking is intimidating

Due to past experience, which was not successful enough, many girls stop trusting the representatives of the stronger sex. They consider them the same in their plans, scoundrels, «goats» and so on.

It is quite difficult to break through to such a “break through”, proving the opposite, or at least that there are differences between everyone.

Therefore, if you do not have positive thinking, if you are not open to new experiences, if you do not believe that you have a wonderful future ahead of you, do not be surprised that you are shunned. Victims and the unfortunate want to deal with mostly those who enjoy it.

And if in your past there were just such chosen ones, it is time to change attitudes and preferences. If you want to let in a new experience, a healthier and stronger relationship.

Naturalness attracts and conquers

Both in behavior and appearance. Bright makeup, or clothes that look defiant — attract attention, but most often narcissists, for whom appearance is the only important criterion when choosing a life partner.

The fact that a girl is afraid to appear without makeup or heels with a short skirt indicates low self-esteem. That she does not accept herself for who she is, does not love and does not respect.

Learn to emphasize your beauty, dignity, but do it unobtrusively, sticking them out and not weighing down the image. War paint is not relevant in all situations. Men value femininity more, the ability to «apply» themselves. They pay attention to gait, smoothness of movements, posture.

What do you think you like more, a light, free, confident step in low-heeled shoes, or a wobbly, stumbling, but in beautiful stilettos?

The importance of intelligence

Only not one that immediately crushes all interlocutors with its power. Excessive abstruseness repels, as it causes a feeling that a person is arrogant, pompous. And to make it interesting to talk.

To be able to support almost any topic. And when necessary, be silent. But there is one condition — the intellect should not significantly exceed the male.

This affects self-esteem and self-awareness. Well, what kind of guy wants to intentionally feel the superiority of the fair half not in beauty, but in intelligence?

Stupid things are actually charming, but only in moments when it comes to completely unfeminine things. For example, car repair. Then he has a chance to show his masculinity and strength, the ability to protect and take care, to solve almost any problem.

The most beautiful thing is to keep the balance. So that, on the one hand, the partner is proud of you, and on the other hand, in more masculine matters, he is touched.

Completion

I want to remind you that each person chooses as a partner the one who has what he needs at the moment. And even if you are a beauty queen with a red diploma of higher education and other important characteristics, they can choose another girl who has something that can satisfy an urgent need.

And let it be significantly lose to you. Such is human psychology.

So do not adapt to the desires and opinions of other people. Be yourself, only then will you find that partner with whom you will truly experience happiness and intimacy. If only because you don’t have to play.

And if you fall short in something, you don’t have something that is indicated on the list — change only if you yourself want it for yourself.

Also, we recommend that you read an article about the aristocratic signs of people’s appearance.

The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina