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Hello dear blog readers! Peace of mind for many seems to be some kind of fabulous state, almost eternal nirvana, which can only be achieved by special, chosen people.
But in reality it is not static, permanent. It is impossible to gain a sense of inner peace once and forever. After all, life is movement.
But you can learn, despite the shaking, to bounce back and feel happy and harmonious again. And today I just want to share with you the ways that will help you in this endeavor.
The most common causes of loss of mental balance
If at least one of the reasons below resonates with you, that is, coincides with your life story, the first thing to do is look for ways to eliminate it. And only after that proceed to the methods that help to find peace of mind.
After all, until you remove the main reason that interferes, the internal state is unlikely to change.
Fault
Guilt prevents a person from inhaling or exhaling, calm, deep and relaxed. It interferes with sleep, causing insomnia. And the internal conversation never seems to stop. Either he accuses him of something he has done, or vice versa, not done, then he is looking for excuses.
And no matter what joyful things happen in life, the burden inside the chest does not leave. That is why they say “like a stone fell from the soul”, if you can get rid of this feeling.
Fear
Fear not only deprives you of peace, but also prevents you from living a full life. Since the personality does not dare to change, it limits itself and stops any actions aimed at fulfilling the need if they cause anxiety.
There are, of course, those who, despite the experience of horror, continue to move forward. Then they manage to overcome their fears, respectively, to get what they want, finding peace.
But there are a number of concerns related to the future, loved ones. And getting rid of anxiety is very difficult, which is why you have to live in constant stress, worrying whether everything is fine.
Responsibility
Sometimes a person makes a mistake — he takes on obligations that are completely beyond his strength, or there are simply a lot of them, as if on one shoulder.
What kind of peace and harmony then can we talk about? You have to constantly think about how to cope and how not to break under this unbearable weight of the word “should”.
List out what you are responsible for. After that, try to rationally judge, but are these your obligations exactly? And how can they be distributed among close people, delegate, so to speak, duties and ask for help.
And never make promises you can’t keep. Otherwise, then you will have to look again for ways to find peace of mind. Because remorse or accusations of the deceived, subsequently reduced self-esteem threaten to violate him.
Offense
This is a rather difficult to bear feeling that destroys health. Since in fact it is withheld and self-directed anger. An offended person can hardly be called calm and peaceful.
And no matter how he tries to be distracted, the injured pride will constantly make itself felt, making it difficult to feel joy and other positively colored emotions.
It is especially difficult for individuals for whom resentment is one of the ways to respond to difficulties and other irritants.
Simply put, when she manipulates other people. Sometimes not on purpose, but because he does not know how else to express his unsatisfied needs, violated boundaries, and so on.
Anger
Anger needs to be released. And constructive, not destructive. That is, instead of hitting an annoying person, it is recommended to let off steam on a pear, a pillow. On safer items.
There are many reasons for aggressive behavior. And the retention of anger threatens with the appearance of almost chronic dissatisfaction and irritability, irascibility. There can be no question of any harmony when a hurricane is raging inside and you want to destroy everything in its path.
Pain and sadness
The pain of losing something or someone valuable, significant sometimes deprives a person of the meaning of life and even the desire to live.
This is a very difficult condition, during this period a person needs help, outside support and time.
Use the recommendations from this article if, for example, you recently broke up with your loved one and are not yet able to rejoice.
Methods
Total control
It is good when a person has his own certain beliefs, rules and boundaries. But what if they turn out to be so rigid that they are almost transformed into dogmas that everyone must follow?
Drop control, let the world be as it is. Others are entitled to opinions that are completely different from yours.
If loved ones and loved ones desire it, then they can and will be unhappy, despite your efforts to make their life beautiful.
I’m not talking about indifference, but about the removal of unnecessary responsibility for other people’s emotions, thoughts, actions.
direct message
Learn to be direct about your feelings and what you don’t like, what you want. When a person hides something, being afraid to «injure» and spoil the mood of a partner, then, firstly, he does not get what he wants. And secondly, then the partner does not know what you really represent then.
Then you are not sincere in relationships and do not allow yourself to be real, free. As if in tight clothes you have to pretend that it is actually comfortable and good. And this makes it very difficult to feel inner harmony.
Reaction to stimuli
Have you noticed that different people react differently to the same event? More stable ones can take some unpleasant news quite calmly. This does not mean that they will not be upset, just that they will not make a tragedy out of it.
Learn to look at the world around you differently. It is difficult, but it is impossible to gain new experience by acting in the old way.
Many are aware that some failures hide more benefits, opportunities than victories. They stimulate the individual to creativity and action.
If people could do everything right the first time, the world would not recognize a lot of geniuses, unique personalities. After all, it was thanks to perseverance and hard work that most of them became famous. And what would have happened if, after the first failure, they chose to give up?
Therefore, in order to more easily perceive events that you did not plan, try to think not only about how to correct the situation, but also how it is useful, what it can teach, what abilities and opportunities to reveal.
Here and now
It is possible to achieve balance if you learn to be and notice yourself in the present moment. Sometimes, remembering the past and fantasizing about the future, we slip reality. And then we wonder why time flies so quickly and imperceptibly.
This happens because mentally we are anywhere, but not “here and now”. By learning to feel yourself in the present moment, you will be able to cope with many of the anxieties that haunt you and do not allow you to relax.
You will learn more about how to do this in this article.
Spiritual Practices
Workouts that allow you to pause, relax, and notice yourself are very resourceful. Meditation and breathing techniques help restore peace of mind. And sometimes nirvana, which many dream of.
By exercising, you will strengthen not only your spirit, but also your health. Yes, and it is extremely necessary to relieve excess stress if you want to be full of energy and feel joy. Stress is present in the life of absolutely every person, but they do not “burn out” emotionally and only those who know how to recover can withstand it.
And if you do not have time to attend group yoga classes, it is quite possible to find at least 15 minutes for independent practice. Detailed instructions on how to do this can be found here.
Charity
Helping others brings satisfaction and joy. It fills and sometimes brings new meanings to life.
Doing good is not that hard. Almost every person has things that are no longer needed. They can be stored for years on shelves, in drawers, cabinets. Filling the space and waiting, suddenly the moment will come, their finest hour, so to speak.
But by giving these things to those in need, you will do some important things. First, help the poor. And secondly — free up space, give the opportunity for something new to enter your life.
Or, let’s say, give the remaining lunch or dinner to street animals. Sometimes even a small portion of food can save someone’s life.
It is only important to learn to distinguish who really needs help, and who just uses and manipulates you. In the case of such, one should train in the ability to refuse.
Physical exercise
Even a simple walk in the park can bring happiness and peace. In addition to saturating your body with oxygen, with the help of the load you will also provoke it to produce hormones of joy.
And what could be better than feeling a pleasant languor, going to bed after a good busy day?
Places of power
Look for your places of power, where you can be alone and filled with energy. Relax, think about problems, make a decision.
It is important that this place is accessible and you can visit it if necessary. And then, living far from the sea, waiting for the summer to finally relax is not an option.
For some, this may turn out to be a certain bench or a tree in the park, while for someone, an exhibition or a performance in the theater helps to recover. Talking to someone who understands you and doesn’t judge, discount, or interrupt when you need to speak up.
Listen to your feelings and remember where you usually experience calmness and a desire to reflect.
Posture
Sedentary work harms posture, lowered shoulders and head cause a feeling of helplessness, fatigue and irritation to the whole world. Therefore, if you are wondering how to restore your emotional state, straighten up first.
It has been scientifically proven that those individuals who monitor their posture are less likely to experience anxiety and have normal self-esteem. They perceive life’s adversities as the need to act and make decisions, and not just panic.
So right now, straighten your shoulders, lift your head, even out your breathing, and feel your mood getting better and better.
Completion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! Laugh more often, because humor helps to withstand the moments of life’s adversity and relieve excess stress. Learn to forgive and be grateful, to enjoy every day, if only because it has come for you today.
And most importantly — stop being nervous because of trifling situations. Tell yourself «stop» every time you’re ready to panic. “Turn on” rationality at such moments, believe me, it will save a lot of nerve cells.
And finally, we recommend that you read the article about the inner core.
Happiness to you and, of course, peace of mind!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina