9 blowjob mistakes

There are many books and manuals that describe the basic blowjob techniques and the subtleties of their execution. You can find almost any advice in them — for example, how to portray a «deep throat» if a woman is not really ready to swallow a dick as deeply as a man would (probably) like it. For all that, there are a few basic principles that are often violated — and as a result, partners get much less pleasure or do not get it at all.

2 place errors

Take care of the head only

The head is very sensitive. But with prolonged exposure, it loses its sensitivity, sensations become dull. Therefore, it is useful to switch to other parts of the male organ. The barrel is also sensitive, especially in the upper third. And despite the fact that the sensitivity of his lower third is not too great, most men approve when a woman takes a deep blowjob, taking the entire penis into her mouth and nuzzling her pubis. But even if you do not intend to do all this, it is useful to pay attention to the trunk, licking it from the bottom up and vice versa.

Forget about the scrotum

There are many sensitive areas here, the touch of which gives a man pleasure. Not all men know about this, since they themselves do not always pay attention to the scrotum during masturbation — especially its lower and back parts. The scrotum can be caressed with both hands and mouth. It is important to carefully wet it with saliva, because the moisture will evaporate when it comes into contact with air and the scrotum will begin to freeze — and this can thoroughly ruin the feeling for a man.

3 fashion mistakes

Sharpness

It is believed that a man is always in the mood for sex. But in reality this is not always the case. Men require adjustment — both psychological and physiological — and time to prepare. Therefore, you should not start oral sex too quickly and end too abruptly. A separate question is whether to allow ejaculate to enter a woman’s mouth. Not all women like it. If you are not set up for such an end to the process, it makes sense to warn your partner about this in advance and offer him other options, for example, by providing him with a face, chest, and hands for this. It is important not to interrupt bodily contact, to maintain common ground (and the more there are, the better).

Excessive intensity

Trying to quickly bring a man to orgasm is not the best way, because in this case the blowjob turns out to be mechanical and is not much different from hand masturbation. In addition, the man in this case begins to suspect that the process is unpleasant for the woman and she wants it to end as soon as possible, that she does not enjoy it, but is serving her duty. It would seem, what’s wrong with that? However, in sex there is also an erotic component — the desire not only to get satisfaction, but also to feel like an object of desire for your partner. Therefore, it is important for a man to receive various confirmations that a woman wants him, that he is desirable for her.

Monotony

Not only our physiology is involved in the sexual process, but also attention and imagination. If the same thing happens all the time, attention gets tired, and sensitivity becomes dull (according to the natural laws of the nervous system), and fantasy is inactive. The result is a lack of pleasure, even in the presence of physiological satisfaction. Simple reciprocating movements are not enough — in the end, a man can provide them himself. Therefore, it makes sense to switch, exciting different erogenous zones, varying and inventing new techniques. Balance is important: movements need to be changed, but not too often, so that the received impulses have time to sum up.

4 Behavior Mistakes

Strain

Any caress, including oral, is not an exam at all, but a manifestation of a living feeling for a partner. When a woman tenses up, both she and her partner have the feeling that she is preparing to do something difficult and possibly unpleasant. Sometimes a gag reflex occurs due to tension. Therefore, first of all, relax the muscles of the body, face and neck. Create — first of all for yourself — a comfortable environment and a pleasant mood.

Hide your face

There is a famous expression — «A woman loves with her ears, and a man with her eyes.» Indeed, many men get a significant part of the pleasure not only from sensations, but also from the picture that opens before him. Therefore, it makes sense to let him look at how your face looks during oral sex.

Keep silent

The fact that men are visual does not mean that they are indifferent to sounds. Moans, sighs and exclamations of admiration are what makes them understand: you like what you do. They don’t want to think that you are painfully forcing yourself to do “it” solely for their pleasure.

Not having fun

Sex is a mutual pleasure. And if one of the partners acts without pleasure, then the second one will surely notice and be upset. Reciprocity of pleasure becomes especially important in long-term relationships in which the impressions received accumulate. What to do? One option is to pretend to enjoy it, but it’s much better to learn how to receive it.

First, you can learn admiration. Remember — most likely, you were far from the first time able to appreciate all the richness of jazz music or the nuances of Renaissance painting. But learning more about them, you understand what to look for, which deserves special appreciation. In the same way, delve into the intricacies of the device of the male genital organs, follow their work, and you will begin to sincerely admire how harmoniously they are arranged, how exactly their shape corresponds to their intended purpose, how sensitively they respond to your interest and touch.

Second, improve your technique. Your increasing skill and the responsiveness of your partner will bring you more and more satisfaction. Thirdly, while pleasing your partner, you can simultaneously please yourself — with a vibrator or your own fingers (men like to watch a woman caress herself), or by arranging so that the clitoris and crotch rub against the man’s leg, or by allowing the partner to caress you (when he is not too immersed in his feelings and is able to pay attention to you).

In conclusion — one more, tenth, mistake. It is bracketed because it does not refer to the blowjob process, but to what we think about it. This mistake is to assume that we already know everything. No matter how much literature is read and “trainings” are carried out, there are always areas of the unknown, even if we have the same partner. As time goes by, we all change. Both psychology and physiology are changing, and new nuances and shades appear in our relations.