8 psychologist’s recommendations on how to interest a girl

Hello dear blog readers! Even the most successful men sometimes do not understand why they are great with business, but not so with the opposite sex. The difficulties of communication between representatives of the stronger and weaker sex have been discussed for more than one century. And today I suggest you explore the question of how to interest a girl. So that your meeting will certainly not be the last.

I want to start by reminding you that every person is different. With its life history, character, tastes, preferences, fears, advantages, and so on. And the approach to each should also be individual, taking into account the above-mentioned features. Therefore, I offer you a number of rules that in most cases are suitable for everyone. But be careful and vigilant, perhaps your chosen one will not react as expected.

List of recommendations

be interested in her

Just do not think about what question to show that she likes and so on. Genuinely interested. It’s like you really need to know what her favorite toys were as a child. What she gets excited about, what season inspires her, and how she likes to be called. As if without information about pets and preferred clothing style over the past year, you just won’t get through the day. The main thing is not to pour questions like from a machine gun. They should be connected to each other and arise in the course of the conversation.

The examples that were listed above are just examples, and you will arouse suspicion if you start asking them right away when you meet. So remember — consistency and sincere interest. If you listen with half an ear, interrupt in the middle, or devalue what has been said, you yourself understand what will happen.

Be honest

People usually feel a lie, they are not always aware, they notice, but they feel it. If you give a compliment, let it be as connected as possible with her real image, appearance, skills or character. Otherwise, she will consider you a liar and will be on her guard if she does not decide to end the conversation at all. And you need to ensure that she relaxes and begins to trust.

So, in order not to use banal phrases that she no longer pays attention to, think about what really attracts you to her. Is there something in her actions, words, temperament that causes respect? What can you really sincerely acknowledge her for? As a woman, a specialist in some field, but just a person with a capital H? Even the slightest insignificant nuance, only really reflecting reality, will make her take a closer look at you.

Non-verbal communication

The psychology of personality is such that at the moment of meeting a person from the first seconds receives almost all the necessary information about the interlocutor. Which later on turns out to be true. Also, in the course of a conversation, people pay attention to what was said, but mainly rely on the knowledge that they “counted”. That is, they received it, unconsciously, and sometimes consciously, thanks to bodily manifestations. Facial expressions, intonation, gestures, chosen distance — give up to 95% of the material. So make an effort not only to make a good impression, but to keep it going. When a person says one thing, and the body language indicates the opposite, the interlocutor will believe the non-verbal, even if he cannot justify this choice for himself.

Therefore, keep your posture, look into the eyes during a conversation, smile and nod, showing that you are listening carefully. Then you will be able to achieve an arrangement at first, and what to do next, you will learn by reading this article.

Confidence

Cute and shy guys are mostly attracted to girls at a very young age. And that’s not all. But in women who are conscious and accomplished, this type of behavior will only cause a desire to take care and reassure. As a reaction to the maternal instinct that made itself felt.

So learn to exude confidence. To do this, it is not always necessary to be the owner of several firms, but rather factories. And do not get out of foreign business trips and vacations. No, it is important to show that you have an inner core. That is, self-confidence, that if you make a decision, then it will be unshakable. And even if you don’t want to, you will bear responsibility for it. Confidence lets a woman know that you know you’re at risk of rejection, but you’re still willing to take action. This means that they are strong enough in spirit to cope with experiences and rejection. And also that she is one of those for whom you can really take a chance. And you have something to show, since you decided to take the first step. And, in the end, how to interest the interlocutor, if you can’t connect from excitement and a couple of words, stand next to you and withstand the tension from silence?

It is important for the beautiful half of humanity to feel secure next to the representative of the stronger sex. And in case of self-doubt of the interlocutor, they have to take the initiative into their own hands. At least to calm down. Not inspiring to continue, is it? If suddenly you are sometimes tormented by doubts and you don’t have a very high opinion of yourself, be sure to work on self-esteem. And the recommendations given here will help you with this.

Hobbies

From the word captivate. Tell us about your hobby, with all your passion and love. Noticing your drive and excitement, the interlocutor is unlikely to get bored, feelings are easily transmitted. Especially if they resonate. Listening to stories about conquering peaks, or traveling to distant lands, running long distances, riding a motorcycle fast, picking up puzzles, in the end, she will most likely want to keep company and see you in the process, at the center of events, about which know. And it is your hobby that can become an occasion for subsequent meetings. To clearly show all his (and his) charms, nuances.

Delicacy and the ability to respect other people’s boundaries

Have you heard that young ladies love assertive guys? Bold and willing to do anything for your dreams? So, not always and not all. Now I will explain. It is important for women to feel that they are considered. And they value not only their opinion, but also their features, habits, etc. That is, there is no need to perceive her “no” with passion, as an obstacle that must be broken and overcome. Otherwise, it will cause a completely normal reaction — the desire to protect their borders. Therefore, you should not put pressure on her and demand answers to frank questions, personal topics that can cause unpleasant emotions.

To interest the interlocutor, try to talk about topics that cause positive feelings. To which she is ready to enthusiastically chat, and not make every effort to endure and still listen to the end. Then after a conversation with you there will be a pleasant aftertaste. Especially if she manages to relax and be herself next to you.

Examples of questions that should not be asked immediately after meeting: why she does not have a young man, the reasons for the failure of past relationships, where exactly and with whom she lives … Keep curiosity, over time, when you become closer and trust appears, you will definitely discuss these themes. I recommend following this link. In it you will find all the necessary information on how to behave without violating other people’s borders.

Sense of humor

To defuse the situation and simply arrange the interlocutor, it is enough to make a good joke at least once. This is so that it doesn’t come out as a joke: “We had such a serious relationship that we didn’t even smile once.”

If you don’t know how she will react to a joke addressed to her, if she suddenly gets hurt or offended, make fun of yourself. Unless, of course, you know how and do not consider such behavior beneath your dignity. It is only important that the banter be in moderation, so as not to put yourself in the worst possible light. Show that being around you is easy, relaxed and fun.

By the way, this test will show you the level of your sense of humor.

Attention

It is important for girls to feel desirable and interesting to a man. And the ability to pay attention will increase your attractiveness at times. Therefore, after the meeting, send her a message, call, but be sure to let her know. She must understand that you are thinking about her, remembering the good times spent together and planning the next meeting. If you don’t know what to write, you can just send a picture that will remind her of something nice about you. Or just wish good morning or evening, ask how your day went. Do not invent something supernatural, ordinary human care will work best.

Conclusion

The main thing is that in the race to get the location of a wonderful companion, do not lose yourself. That is, you should not adapt to it. There will come a time when you get tired of it, and you will show your true face. Which quite reasonably will cause bewilderment and disappointment in the girl. And you are angry that you had to hold on to your emotions and needs at the moment when others were satisfying. So be attentive not only to others, but also to yourself. Playing a role is relevant in other cases that do not involve intimacy. Then they simply won’t have time to “bite” you.

And finally, I want to suggest taking an online test to understand your weaknesses, and vice versa, resource ones. And also get recommendations on what to look out for. To advance in development and attract the opposite sex, causing respect from others.

And that’s all for today, dear readers! We will be grateful if you share your experience and knowledge in the comments, how you can conquer and interest the fairer sex.

The material was prepared by a psychologist and Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina.