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Over the years, the former passion has subsided, and the sexual life with a partner has lost its novelty? Sexologists have named seven ways to strengthen intimacy and bring sensation back to the bedroom.
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1. Don’t rush your orgasm
Family therapist Gracie Landes believes that there is no need to rush orgasm. You will get more pleasure if you approach it gradually. You don’t have to have orgasms at the same time. The main thing is that both have fun and not lose contact. Take it slow, increase arousal, tease each other. Reduce and increase the intensity of the sensations until you decide it’s time to release.
2. Ban gadgets in the bedroom
Clinical sexologist Anna Randall says the bed is only for sleeping and sex. There is no place for phones and other gadgets in the bedroom. It’s hard to tune in to sex when your partner is more interested in the internet than your body. If you can’t live without entertainment, try adult films, they will start a passionate night. You can light candles or read erotic stories to each other.
3. Accept your body
Psychologist-sexologist Megan Fleming notes that many men and women experience changes in their bodies. Sexuality is a state of mind. It does not depend on age or clothing size. Embrace your sexuality.
The partner feels your mood and energy. Find ways to turn yourself on – wear nice underwear, light candles, smile. Each of us is responsible for making contact with inner sexuality.
4. Teach each other
Who knows better than you how to please you? Anna Randall suggests sitting comfortably next to each other and taking turns watching each one bring themselves to orgasm.
Watching your man do it will be one of the most exciting and rewarding experiences of your life. Sit between his legs and watch.
Gazing stimulates arousal and strengthens intimacy. This is a very intimate gesture.
When it’s your turn, take your partner’s hand and control its movements. Show your partner what you like.
When it’s over, hug and talk about what you’ve learned. Intimacy in sexual life will move to a new level.
5. Look into the eyes
Sexologist Kimberly Resnick Anderson recommends maintaining eye contact for at least two minutes. Gazing stimulates arousal and strengthens intimacy. This is a very intimate gesture. Many couples avoid this powerful aphrodisiac because they feel too vulnerable.
6. Schedule sex
Many couples agree that they would like to have sex more often, but everyday activities and worries prevent spontaneity. Sexologist Ursula Offman says the best way to have sex often is to plan ahead.
Think about how you want it to be. What new do you want to try? When a partner finds out that you are planning sexual pleasures, this will excite him. Also, you yourself will tune in to the desired mood even before real physical contact.
Few couples share their sexual preferences, expectations, and fantasies. Kimberly Resnick Anderson says many of her clients are ashamed or repressed.
Unleash your erotic script and share it with your partner. This will give you a feeling of freedom and excitement.
Many people think that their partner is not interested in their fantasies, not to mention taking part in the implementation. However, couples who have not had sex for a long time manage to restore their sex life after such an exercise in the office of a psychotherapist. When you find out about your partner’s sexual fantasy, it will turn you on.