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In pregnancy there are many surprises even for women, and there is nothing to say about men – sheer stress.
How many expectant mothers complain that their husbands treat them without any discount on their situation! Like, he does not understand what a woman who is expecting a child has to experience. Especially when it comes to the firstborn. Men really do not really understand what is happening with their wife at this time. Some things should be prepared in advance – there will still be stress, but maybe not so hard.
1. Pregnant women get tired quickly
Once upon a time, you could hang out all night, and in the morning rush to shopping, wander around the city all day on a journey and move mountains with just one glance. No, now everything has changed. In the first trimester, I desperately want to sleep, in the second it becomes a little easier, but fatigue is growing – those efforts that you did not notice before are now given with difficulty. I woke up in the morning, had breakfast, got dressed – and was already tired. A man should forget about your agility, your body is already full of work.
2. Women gain weight
Theoretically everyone knows this, but for some reason the reality still becomes a shock. “How much will she recover there? 8-10 kilograms maximum? ” – say naive guys. In fact, even very slender girls can gain both 20 and 25 kilograms. This is not at all because they eat a lot. It’s just that the woman’s body at this time works in a completely different way. Of course, there are also norms here, which are not worth going through. Then the weight gained during pregnancy will go away soon after giving birth.
3. Pregnant women often need a bathroom
And a toilet. Sometimes it is very difficult for girls in position to endure the heat. Even if it’s cold outside, they can be hot – so much so that they want to get into a cool shower, preferably 10 times a day. This is fine, but it may look strange. And the toilet is generally prose. All routes of movement around the city will have to be calculated literally from one toilet to another. And this is very difficult for men to understand: is it really impossible to be patient? No you can not.
4. Husband will receive less attention now
Previously, he was the center of the world for his beloved, but now this place has been taken by someone else. Even before birth, a child becomes the most important thing in his mother’s life. Dad will have to make room, and a man is not always ready for this. Sometimes women have to cope not only with a newborn, not only with their own fatigue, depression and sleepless nights, but also with their husband’s jealousy. Have pity on your wife, do not make scenes for her.
5. Taste preferences change
And very much. A woman in anticipation of a baby may start to eat more – or just more often. This is fine. And he can also crave a variety of things: seize bacon with jam, for example, and demand a peach in the middle of the night. This is really stronger than the woman herself. She doesn’t like the light without this nightly sandwich. It may be worse – sometimes you really want to go to the station right now, immediately, to smell the sleepers. This will pass, but you will have to endure for some time – believe me, the expectant mother herself is not happy with such jumps either.
6. The wife will turn paranoid
A little, just a little, but – yes. She will worry and worry about the slightest pretext, you never know where something is not so prickly. And I must say that here she is right – sometimes it is better to play it safe and double-check whether everything is in order than to endure the unpleasant sensations, and then bite your elbows. Motherhood changes women: they become more anxious. Almost always, this anxiety is within the normal range, but from the outside it really seems like paranoia.
7. She really needs your help.
At first, let the young mother push you away from the child, try to do everything herself, know: she needs your help and she really appreciates it. The kid still needs mom more than everyone else, no one can replace mom. But no matter how hard the mother is eager to cope with the newborn, she needs help. Otherwise, she will quickly burn out, get tired, and then she is not far from depression. Mom needs to explain that she is the whole world for the baby. And the world should be calm, strong and happy.