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We sincerely want to be together with our loved ones, but something seems to interfere with this. The reason is often the emotional unavailability of the partner, which he does not even suspect. And sometimes we ourselves are not ready for a relationship, but we do not understand it. Therefore, you should be attentive to your own feelings and reactions to the actions of another. And also ask yourself and him the right questions.
1. The partner closed in on himself
The partner has become more silent and does not listen to you attentively enough.
Question: Is he really ignoring you, or is he going through a difficult period in his life right now, and therefore he needs more silence and personal space?
Perhaps the first tense moments between you unconsciously cause you fears that the relationship will fall apart and hurt you. And because of this, you are ready to give them up in advance. It’s worth thinking about it!
2. He bypasses painful topics
The partner quietly walks away from the conversation whenever you want to discuss something meaningful. You feel that he is not ready for your confessions, and you cannot be sincere with him to the end.
Question: Is this really your partner’s reaction, or do you yourself feel uncomfortable at this moment and move away from the conversation? Are you attributing your own vulnerability to another?
3. He talks too much about sex.
In the behavior of a partner and his compliments, there are too many, as it seems to you, frank sexual allusions. At the same time, you have not even talked about whether you both have serious intentions, whether you consider yourself a couple. Sometimes it seems to you that he is only interested in sex, and this is alarming.
Question: Does he behave delicately enough and is not in the mood for a serious relationship, or are you afraid of manifestations of his passionate temperament? Maybe he is just sure that you are on the same wavelength with him and reciprocate.
4. His words don’t match his actions
You are confused by contradictions. First, he talks about a common home and that he would like to have children. At such moments, it seems to you that he sees in you the one with whom he is going to connect his life. However, later he does not return to these conversations, which gives rise to doubts – is he in the mood for a serious relationship?
Question: Are you trying to read between the lines, artificially creating a stressful situation? It is often convenient for us to interpret the words of the interlocutor in our own way. Or maybe you expect something from him that he is not ready to offer you? Think about it and clarify the situation with your loved one.
5. He’s hiding something
If your partner often cancels meetings, it seems to you that he simply comes up with excuses for this. You feel that he is not completely frank with you – something is happening in his life that he prefers to hide.
Question: Perhaps you yourself should become more open and start a conversation about what is bothering you? If the partner continues to answer questions vaguely, moving away from the answer, most likely he is not ready for rapprochement and for the degree of sincerity that you expect from him. In any case, this is worth talking about.
6. He loses interest in you.
Some men are interested in a relationship until they feel that women have achieved. They only care about playing the game of a victorious hunter, which satisfies their vanity and allows them to feel power and superiority. As soon as you try to switch roles and show interest in him yourself, then the passion for you will most likely disappear.
Question: the typical manipulative play of a person with narcissistic traits does not offer hope for a deep relationship. Is it worth it to be afraid of losing someone who does not value you?
7. He is overly critical and unwilling to compromise.
His criticality may be a form of perfectionism, which is a socially approved form of addiction. And it contradicts the very unpredictability of the nature of love. After all, this feeling cannot be completely subordinated to logic and control.
Question: Is your partner really overly critical of you, or are you afraid you’re not up to your imaginary standards?