Our columnist frankly told what prevents her from having offspring.
I live in a rented apartment
Of course, I know that it is completely legal to have children without your own living space. But I do not want my child to grow up in a removable single room, which I can now afford. He would have to play in the corridor, sleep between the wardrobe and bookshelves, and where to put the children’s table, I can’t even imagine! Let’s add to this the inconvenience with the owners of the apartment: after all, children can easily ruin the wallpaper and furniture.
I want to buy expensive things
I know it sounds selfish, but frank. I live within my means, try to increase my earnings and am glad that every year I can afford more and more. I want to buy clothes that I like, comfortable expensive shoes and not get lost if I suddenly broke my phone thinking about taking out a loan or buying the cheapest model.
And I dream that someday my child will grow up with the same mood. And for this I need to invest in a career.
I dream of moving to another country
Yes, I haven’t decided yet whether I want to live in Moscow or whether I’m still attracted to abroad. But I understand perfectly well that if in a couple of years I finally decide to pack the largest suitcase and leave for another capital, I will not be able to do this with a child. Firstly, it will complicate the logistics, but the main thing is how selfish it will be to drastically change the environment for a child just because of my desire!
I want to travel
Working days and a huge amount of work I am ready to endure in the name of the dream of a new journey. I love planning, monitoring ticket prices and am always ready to grab a suitcase and fly away that evening. And the child does not fit into this lifestyle at all. Besides, I am sure that I will not even have enough money for frequent travels.
I love spontaneity
I have already said that I can suddenly go on a trip and will not refuse to meet with friends. Even if they call me in an hour, I can easily change my mind to spend the evening with a book, get out of bed and go to the concert. And I just can’t imagine how you can suddenly find a nanny without knowing your plans in advance. And is it fair? The child needs to give all of himself.
Not ready to answer for other people’s actions
I am ready to explain my every action, but I am not at all ready to answer for strangers. When I imagine that soon I will have to raise a worthy member of society, I get scared.
But I know that you will never be ready for this, and I can completely ignore this point.
I understand that it will turn my life upside down
I really like my life now, and I try to make it better. And so far I do not want to change anything at all. And the child will turn everything! I know I will love this, but for now I can afford to postpone this moment.