7 practices that will help develop charisma

1. Start with the “foundation” of personality

None of your decisions should be contrary to your basic interest and key principles. Adhering to your value system means declaring yourself as a stable and strong personality. This means that you have a “foundation”.

Such people always attract the attention of others: they are also called “people with a core”, as they know exactly what is important and good for them, and defend it.

Practice

The base interest may change, but for the development of charisma at a particular point in time, it must be only one. Answer the question: what is the most important for you now, the highest priority?

Self-actualization, business, creativity, family, service to some purpose, liberation, morality, search, pleasure, self-care or altruism – find the direction that guides you through life. Then take a pen and paper and describe how it manifests itself in your daily life.

2. Talk to the internal director

Listen to the inner voice that reads this text. This is your director.

People with strong charisma have a very powerful inner director. For them, he is an absolute authority. But every time he makes decisions that make them feel uncomfortable, or doubts whether to go against the basic interest and value system, his authority falls. So remember that the internal director should always act in your best interest.

By forgetting to give him the floor, you run the risk of becoming receptive to other people’s directions. And as a result, start acting in accordance with other people’s requirements and desires, just to feel needed.

Practice

If you find it difficult to make a decision or choose a behavior, talk to your internal director. Have a conversation on paper, starting with the question: “Dear Inner Director, are you there?” Write down the answer. Continue the conversation by writing down everything you say and what he says. Ask your question and get a wise answer.

3. Be honest with yourself and others

If you want to adopt what you like so much in another charismatic person, then you will most likely fail. This quality will not manifest itself so brightly. The main principle of charisma is individuality and authenticity: you should not arrange a photo shoot on a motorcycle if you have never ridden one. The external must be equal to the internal, correspond to it. You must be honest with yourself and others.

Honesty is not a one-time decision; it is a process. Check each day to see if what you feel matches what you think and what you do? Whose emotions are you expressing – your own or someone else’s?

Practice

Review the past day. When were you honest and when were you not? At what moments did you manage to correctly express your feelings, and when and why did you prefer to remain silent?

4. Create an image of your future

The charismatic always has an idea about his future, he imagines the image of the future. This image can be formed at different levels: for example, at the professional level, we can create it by criticizing the existing state of things in the company, and at the personal level, taking care of the original path that we would like to follow.

Practice

Describe how you see your future in 3 years – taking into account how you can influence the embodiment of this image. And answer the question: “What project do I want to implement in the next three years?” It can be an idea project – starting a business, implementing a creative project, or a material project – for example, buying an apartment.

5. Develop self-awareness

Self-awareness is the ability to accept yourself as a whole, with all your strengths, weaknesses, strengths and shadow sides.

Let’s say you enrolled in a public speaking class and learned from a teacher what you should work on. But if you fully accept yourself, then appreciate the natural features of your voice. After all, it is they who are part of your personal charisma, and not at all the delivered speech of the TV presenter.

Practice

Take paper, pen and write down:

• their most irrational and ridiculous fears;
• needs that are still unmet;
• talents currently unclaimed;
• actions that you are ashamed of and that you do not want to remember.

Think about how all this can affect your behavior.

6. Determine the purpose of the communication

Most often, we show charismatic traits in dealing with people. And it doesn’t matter at all in what environment it takes place: on a date, a working meeting or during a live broadcast with subscribers. Determine what effect you want to achieve by interacting with other people? What is your goal? What are you striving for?

Practice

State the purpose of your communication in one word. For example, “inspire”, “sell”, “cheer”, “shock”, “motivate”, “learn”, “intrigue”… When you have a specific goal, you will unconsciously support it with intonation, facial expressions, gestures, word choice and images.

7. Get “contagious pride”

“Contagious pride”, as the American psychologist, leader and organizational behavior researcher Bernard Bass called it, is nothing more than confidence in oneself, one’s strengths and one’s vision. And confidence is your influence on the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of others.

Believe that you can be absolutely anything: interesting, in demand, outstanding, attractive, popular. As writer Marianne Williamson said, “It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us the most. We ask ourselves: who am I to be outstanding, gorgeous, talented and amazing? But the question is: who am I not to be?”