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Even if butterflies flutter in the stomach, and every date is a real holiday, awkward situations sometimes arise at the beginning of any novel. Do not blush and be embarrassed: these are natural companions for the development of relationships. What stories make us worry and how can we calm ourselves?
1. What is our status?
Are we a couple or not? Can we talk about a partner as “my boyfriend” or “my girlfriend”? As a rule, the woman is more worried about this topic. It is more important for her to know what status they are with a man, when they start dating, when they come together and when they have been living together for a long time, but there is no marriage proposal. But it also happens the other way around!
2. Hygiene issues
At the beginning of a relationship, personal hygiene issues are especially awkward. The smell of the partner’s skin, the need to go to the toilet (“powder the nose”), and an unwashed head can also cause embarrassment. People want to show themselves in the best light, so at first you have to be more secretive and vigilant in these situations so as not to “scare” your partner and spoil your opinion of yourself. Who hasn’t heard stories about women who wake up before their lover to get their makeup done? Or did you not take off your makeup at night?
3. Financial matters
The question of money at the beginning of a relationship also causes discomfort. Everyone needs to get acquainted with the financial model of the second half. Who pays for whom in a restaurant, who buys food for home, whose responsibility is utility bills at the beginning of a life together? If there is disagreement, there will be more embarrassment. But you will still have to come to a mutual decision, so it is important to tune in to the conversation and boldly discuss all the issues that worry you.
4. Individual shortcomings and bad habits
No one is perfect, everyone has their own characteristics and bad habits. When a relationship is born, you want to look very good in the eyes of your partner. You can also hide and pretend, but not for long: the truth will still come out. In addition, in this case, one partner will have to spend resources on hushing up, and then an unpleasant surprise awaits the second. This can cause conflicts, so it’s best not to hide such secrets for too long.
5. Talking about past relationships
Neither men nor women enjoy stories, especially detailed ones, about ex-partners. Sometimes the past needs to be left in the past, and extra information can ruin a romantic mood.
6. Acquaintance with the partner’s environment
Exciting is the moment of acquaintance not only with parents, but also with friends. Both partners feel awkward and embarrassed. One worries about how acquaintances will accept a new chosen one, the other feels responsible for being liked and impressing.
7. Discussing intimate matters
This area of relationships usually requires special delicacy. Excessive activity and haste can put a partner in an awkward position. It also happens that women, out of a desire to please, do not talk about their desires and do not refuse intimacy, even if they are not yet ready for it. Honesty and respect for yourself and others are important here.
Victoria Parkhomchuk — neurocoach.