Contents
Envious, eternally dissatisfied, unable to be happy for you, striving to surpass you in everything … This is not friendship, and it is better to stay away from such people.
It is important for us to surround ourselves with people who make life beautiful and let go of those who upset and devastate you. Surely there are people in life that you have outgrown. Leave in the past such girlfriends, if you have them.
1. The friend who isn’t happy for you
You met a man with whom you are ready to go on a second date, or received a solid bonus at work. You are in seventh heaven, and your friend is darker than clouds. Perhaps the reason is envy or self-doubt. She chooses to ignore your success instead of rejoicing and celebrating it with you. Share your joy with those who are rooting for you.
2. The friend who gives questionable compliments
She formulates thoughts in such a way that you won’t immediately understand if this is a compliment or an insult. For example, she says that she would like to live your life because you do not have real responsibilities and duties. Or notes how wonderful your outfit looks from afar. All compliments start with cute phrases, but end with negativity. The world is full of critics. You should not invest in a relationship with a girlfriend who shows passive aggression.
3. The friend who is always negative
Not only is she not happy for you, she is basically not happy about anything. Bought a dress with a 50% discount? It will probably fit. Found a new apartment? But the area is so noisy. No matter what was discussed, she always has a negative opinion on this matter. Perhaps she really perceives this world as a negative abyss, but you should not experience this influence on yourself.
4. The girlfriend who constantly derails plans
She calls five minutes before the dinner date and says she’s still shopping. Cancels going to the concert that you have long dreamed of the night before. Of course, sometimes life interferes with plans – there’s nothing you can do about it. But ignoring obligations to others and behaving as you please is a completely different matter. Remember how little free time you have. Dedicate it to friends who treat it with respect.
5. A friend who competes with you
A friend’s success can be the motivation to achieve your goals, but rivalry shouldn’t be at the heart of the relationship. She may be keeping score. Have you made a dish you are proud of? She knew how to cook it a year ago. Have you bought shoes that you have been saving for a long time? She already has two pairs. Such relationships are doomed. It is more pleasant to communicate with people who want the best for you, rather than trying to assert themselves at your expense.
6. The friend you lost intimacy with
This loss is the hardest to accept. Your lives have changed and you have changed with them. If you’ve tried to reconnect with no success, it’s logical to let go of the relationship. Maybe she still prefers dating men who mistreat her. Perhaps she has already changed three cities over the past year and hardly responds to your messages. No matter what happens, not every person will retain their role throughout your life. These relationships are proof of that.