Contents
- 1. They know how to see beauty in their imperfection.
- 2. They are aware of their strength and vulnerability
- 3. They know that confidence does not eliminate fears and doubts.
- 4. Confident women see the results of their decisions.
- 5. They have a clear value system
- 6. Despite all the difficulties, they know how to live easily and have fun
To the question of what a woman needs in order to feel self-confidence, many will answer without hesitation: beauty. The answer is obvious, but wrong. Psychologists, psychiatrists and coaches are sure that completely different qualities help the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity to go through life with their heads held high.
“Confidence and high self-esteem are the key to happiness for any woman. And confidence primarily depends on our self-image and past life experiences,” says psychotherapist and life coach David Schroeder.
When we look in a mirror, our beliefs affect how we perceive our own reflection. The more confident we feel, the better we evaluate our appearance.
But what makes a woman confident? Socialization and life experience play a role. But it’s not just them. “The area of the brain responsible for self-criticism and negative thinking is larger and better developed in women than in men,” explains neuropsychiatrist Luanne Brizendine, author of The Women’s Brain.
It turns out that jumps in the level of hormones in the female body can significantly affect self-esteem. And yet, many literally exude confidence, despite all the peculiarities of their brains and all the burden of negative life experiences. And with their confidence, they attract other happy and confident people to them.
What does such a woman feel when she looks in the mirror? Does she see perfection there? Not at all. Confident women evaluate themselves quite realistically. But at the same time, looking at their reflection, they see not only their external appearance, but also their inner strength.
Here are a few qualities that distinguish truly confident women.
1. They know how to see beauty in their imperfection.
Confident women are well aware of their physical features (as well as internal ones). However, they are not only not afraid to recognize them, but also do not evaluate themselves according to them. They do not believe that small flaws outweigh or detract from their undoubted merits. For example, if such a woman has beautiful eyes, a scar on her stomach cannot spoil their beauty in any way.
“Our dark sides make us not flawed, but rather full-fledged,” says Deepak Chopra in The Shadow Effect. Confident people soberly assess themselves and accept themselves for who they are. Their life credo: accepting our imperfection, we discover new talents and strengths in ourselves.
2. They are aware of their strength and vulnerability
They remember all the difficulties they faced and overcame, and respect themselves for their resilience.
Yes, they may still have a need to please others. Perhaps they crave love and acceptance. But they have learned to control these needs and not lose themselves by trying to adapt to those around them.
3. They know that confidence does not eliminate fears and doubts.
Confident women love themselves. They know their strengths and value them. But they are also clearly aware of their own fears and doubts. They know that if they accept these fears and doubts as inevitable, they will no longer seem so frightening.
Such women trust their intuition and believe that they will cope with any difficulties (even if they overcome fear). “The quality of your life is directly related to your ability to endure uncertainty,” says life coach and motivational workshop leader Tony Robbins.
4. Confident women see the results of their decisions.
They always take responsibility for the decisions they make and the choices they make without trying to blame others. And it doesn’t matter whether it’s about financial well-being or waist circumference, a confident woman is responsible for her own happiness and health.
They have long understood that no one is obliged to please them and make them happy. They know that it is not always possible to make only the right decisions, so they especially appreciate the good choice and know how to learn from mistakes.
5. They have a clear value system
A self-confident woman has a goal in life and a clear system of principles and values, which she steadily adheres to on the way to this goal.
6. Despite all the difficulties, they know how to live easily and have fun
“They say that angels can fly because nothing bothers them. So confident women, without denying the difficulties of life, know how to take them not too seriously, ”emphasizes David Schroeder. They know perfectly well that in the life of each of us there are “black stripes”.
They acknowledge their mistakes and failures and smile in the mirror knowing that they have learned important lessons from past hardships and failures. Despite this, they sometimes allow themselves to be a little childish: to have fun, to act frivolously, to fool around. This helps them overcome life’s trials with ease and grace.