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We are glad to welcome you, dear readers! At its core, a woman is a seductress, and the ability to attract members of the opposite sex is in her blood. If only because this knowledge was passed down from generation to generation. But it happens that there is no access to the memory of the genus for some reason. Or, due to negative experience in the past and character traits, she loses this skill. Therefore, today we will talk about how to interest a man, and it does not matter whether he is well known to you or not. We’ll take a look at the mistakes most of us make and learn how to fix them.
Purpose and motive of seduction
Before you start taking action, ask yourself, you know, what question? Why exactly do you need to interest members of the opposite sex. That is, if you liked someone, and you want to be with him, it’s one thing. But if for the sake of fun, confirmation of your attractiveness, think about what you will do with this attention later.
It happens that the beautiful half of humanity dreams that when looking at them, the guys are ready to fall in “piles”. But if this really happens, will there be enough strength to cope with such a flow of interest? If you direct energy to one, specific, then it will become possible to gain intimacy, build deep and valuable relationships. And really feel loved and meaningful to him.
When there is a question about quantity, then a person only tries to assert himself, but the feeling of superiority will be short-lived. And any experience of rejection can destroy integrity, causing trauma. This is what awareness and achieving inner balance and harmony are for. So take care of yourself and be honest with yourself. Now let’s get down to the recommendations.
Tips
Personal space
A man values his freedom, despite the fact that he wants to start a family, he carefully tries to preserve his autonomy. After all, if he loses it, he will lose stability in a separate, male world, where competition and rivalry reigns. Therefore, it is important to hold on and not fall into a maternal position that controls and limits. As if for his own good. It is such a woman who respects his personal space that is able to attract attention. Except when the guy, on the contrary, is looking for someone who can replace his mother. But this is a completely different topic for discussion.
So do not control his every step, but rejoice when he appears. Without reproaches, demands for explanations and reports. In a place where there is no freedom, but only suspicions, conflicts and mistrust, he will not come. Unless you are connected by common children, property, etc. And this is quite logical, few people seek suffering voluntarily.
Interest
It is believed that a man chooses a woman. And indeed it is. With one, but. A woman initially prepares for this, the so-called field. That is, initially she chooses the one she likes, and then directs energy to him, full of excitement, interest. You can say flirting and seducing. Then he notices her, and, accordingly, chooses.
Therefore, if someone really “hooked” you, you should not make an arrogant look, full of indifference, believing that this will provoke you to achieve it. No way. Otherwise, how can he understand that he will not run into rejection by deciding to get to know each other? Try to show that you like him. Each person needs another, and it is important for everyone to feel their attractiveness, to receive attention.
Try, looking into his eyes, mentally say how you like him. Non-verbally, this will manifest itself in your facial expressions, posture, gestures, even intonation will change, believe me. All this will give him a sign that the «green light» is on.
To learn more about nonverbalism, you can read the information provided in this article.
Conversation
When you don’t know what to talk about, try asking him, his life, his hobby. Refrain from talking non-stop, or asking questions like a machine gun without really listening to the answers. This may cause him boredom, or the thought that you are overly intrusive.
Research which topic has the most energy and stick with it. It is important not to ignore yourself, so choose an area that appeals to you. Because, yawning and a confused look from not understanding what he is saying will not play in your favor.
Watch your speech, the use of obscene words, or the use of terms inappropriately, for the sake of the desire to appear smart, will only cause a desire to quickly end the conversation. Literacy, the ability to listen and hear, the feedback on his words will indicate that you are not just a wonderful woman, but also an excellent interlocutor. Who would like to meet again.
Confidence
Low self-esteem can only attract the attention of a person prone to tyranny, in order to assert themselves and realize some of their needs, with the help of power over the weaker. Why do you need such a relationship? That’s right, there’s no need. If you are self-confident, value yourself and respect yourself, then there will be nothing left for others to do the same with you.
A man realizes his aggressive part with the help of competition. He strives to win, win over others. Why is it important for him to be proud of his chosen one. And how will he do this if she herself has a low opinion of herself? If she does not know about her advantages? I’m talking about using them. As well as weaknesses, in order to know the nearest development zone, that is, to understand what else needs to be worked on.
The psychology of the strong half of humanity is such that it is more social. When a woman’s attention is more focused on caring for the family and well-being, they need to fight to ensure safety. That is, he has more contacts, intersections, and so on. That is why it is important for him to be proud of the chosen one. He will then present it to the world as the one that is valuable, which he has chosen.
So, if you feel that your self-esteem is not very good, take care of it. It is pointless to expect love from another until you love yourself. If you don’t know where to start, it doesn’t matter, you will receive recommendations and a description of the meaning of this process by clicking on this link.
Attractiveness
As much as we would like to be accepted unconditionally, as we are, not grooming does not cause excitement. And the question is not that it is always necessary to be in war paint and on a diet. No. A girl needs to take care of herself and her appearance. And not only at the initial stage of the relationship. Like it or not, but a beautiful inner world is noticed after they carefully familiarize themselves with the appearance.
Guys, in order to remain interested in a girl, it is extremely necessary to want her. That is, to experience sexual interest, to notice her beauty, charm. Then there will be excitement and flirting.
Just be careful, there is such a personality type as a narcissist. He treats the appearance of the chosen one as a fetish, ignoring her personality. If you notice that you are being critically examined, or asked about how long ago you had a pedicure and so on, then first think about whether you really want to attract him?
Difference
Autonomy is necessary not only for guys, they want their companion to have it too. Or rather, their interests and hobbies. If you give up everything that was present in your life before, you will scare him. At first, this, of course, will flatter him, but then he will get bored. So do not adjust and choose a sacrificial position. We are attracted to each other by difference.
Differences in temperaments, characters cause admiration and beckon. A feminine and tender lady does not need a guy with exactly the same features as hers. Just as a courageous and strong person does not need a girl, with whom they will often be in a fight and struggle for power than enjoy each other’s company.
Be yourself, do not adapt to the other, unless it is a conscious choice that will make you happier. Then energy will always circulate between you, and, accordingly, excitement.
Also on the site, you can read an article about 19 ways to develop femininity.
Conclusion
Finally, I want to note that these tips are relevant even in cases where you communicate virtually. But if you don’t know each other yet, but really want to fix it, take the initiative in your own hands by writing first. Because he may not even know you exist. And waiting for a miracle to happen, and he will be the first to send a message, increases the possibility of never meeting. Correspondence in social networks has recently brought together a lot of hearts. So why don’t you use this method if, for example, you are afraid to show attention first in real life?
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestal therapist, Zhuravina Alina.