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A man who is attractive to you does not take the initiative. What to do: wait for a miracle or take matters into your own hands? Journalist Monica Adams is sure that women will only benefit if they take the first step more often. Psychologist Ekaterina Vashukova shares tips on what to do if you were refused.
You no longer need to sit on the balcony and wait for the gentleman to come, sing a serenade and ask for your hand. Women have the same opportunities as men. If you like someone, ask for a phone number, ask them out on a date, or just flirt until you win their heart.
Feel free to take the initiative in your own hands, because in this way you:
1. Get what you want
If you communicate only with those who take the initiative themselves, your choice is limited. It would be more far-sighted to choose the most attractive man and approach him. Forget the random boyfriends you don’t notice until they buy you a drink.
2. Save time
Think about how much time you are wasting while you are staring at an attractive man on the other side of the room. You hope that he will take the hint and approach. But by taking this step, you will save a lot of time and effort. From afar, it’s hard to tell if it’s good enough for you. Walk up and start a conversation – you will immediately understand if he is worth your time.
3. Show initiative
To talk to a man, you need to be confident in yourself, because you have no idea if he likes you. To do so is to take the risk, to believe in yourself. Appreciate and develop these qualities, they will help not only in personal, but also in professional life.
4. Look sexy
Some men are tired, they are tired of getting rejected. When you take the initiative, such a man will be flattered. He can relax and be himself. In his eyes, you will look ten times sexier than other women.
5. Get the answer right away
If you’ve been sighing for a man for three years, it’s time to take a step. Did he reciprocate? Wonderful! Not? So, you can finally forget about him and find someone else.
6. Gain experience
The more you communicate with the opposite sex, the better you understand what qualities you are looking for in a partner, and therefore, the faster you find the one. Approaching a stranger, especially if he is handsome, is scary. But if a spark slips between you, all experiences will evaporate. If he doesn’t love you back, move on to the next candidate.
“WHEN ONE DOOR CLOSES, ANOTHER OPENS”
The situation of refusal is stressful for any person, and especially for a woman, since the initiative in relationships is still considered the prerogative of men. If you take the first step and get rejected, it can be a serious blow to your self-esteem. What to do in order not to lose faith in yourself?
Our childish part reacts painfully to rejection, so try to concentrate on the adult part of your personality.
Take rejection as an opportunity to improve. Direct negative energy in a constructive direction: sign up for a gym, prove yourself at work, update your image. Positive changes and successes will increase self-esteem and give self-confidence. Be glad that you got a refusal, and not an agreement caused by pity or the inability to answer “no”. Otherwise, you would have wasted your time and mental strength on this person.
When one door closes, another opens. Do not dwell on the man who refused, otherwise his image will prevent you from seeing “open doors”.
Source: News Cult.