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Thanks to the ability to understand people, we understand who should be trusted and who should not. We guess what to expect from this or that interlocutor, with whom it is worth entering into a long-term relationship, and who should be avoided. Here are some tips to help you acquire and test this quality in practice.
1. The way he argues
Like it or not, conflicts are an integral part of life: with their help, we declare our desires and needs and defend a position. It is foolish to try by all means to avoid both them and those who at least sometimes disagree with us in some way. Another question is how the interlocutor behaves in such situations.
Ask yourself:
- Does he get personal, forgetting to separate the opponent from the problem?
- Does he give the other party a chance to answer, or is he constantly interrupting?
- Is he polite and respectful?
- Does he know when to stop arguing?
If he manages to make each argument short, polite and productive, that is, so that each of the interlocutors can take something out of it for himself, this is a good sign.
2. How emotionally stable he is
A relationship with a person who is in control of himself, his feelings and behavior is something worth striving for, whether it is a friendship, friendship or a romantic union. How a person copes with stress, pressure, difficult situations and challenges of life, you can tell a lot about his character and how you will feel in a relationship with him.
Ask yourself:
- Does he get angry for little things? Doesn’t it happen that too much unsettles him and he cannot calm down for a long time?
- Does he have constant mood swings?
- Does he think before acting?
Of course, everyone loses control at least once in a while, but being in a relationship with someone with whom this happens all the time is very difficult.
3. The way he behaves when he makes a mistake
We all do them. The only question is what we do next – do we try to apologize and fix everything, or repeat them again.
Ask yourself:
- Does the person take responsibility for what they have done? Does he pass it on to others?
- Is he trying to hide what he did?
The inability to admit mistakes can indicate immaturity, an inflated ego, and emotional instability. You can hardly trust such a person.
4. How he deals with rejection
How does your interlocutor react to a rejection? If the word “no” jeopardizes his identity, if he starts to complain that the world is unfair, it says that it can be quite difficult with him.
A calm, self-confident person does not give up after a refusal. He continues to move towards his goal, but reflects on his course and changes it.
5. The way he talks about the achievements of others
If a person says one thing to the face of others, for example, praises them for their victories, but questions their achievements behind their backs, perhaps you should stay away from him.
Phrases like:
- “I don’t understand why she was promoted – she must have some kind of cronyism there.”
- “He’s not worth that kind of money.”
- “Good luck to them!”
If a person speaks in this way about others behind their backs, most likely, the same fate will sooner or later befall you. This behavior suggests that the interlocutor is not confident in himself, envious and lives with a lot of complexes. Confident people are happy for others.
6. The way he relates to life
Have you ever met people who constantly complain about everything: about people, work, circumstances, the injustice of the world? Everything is always wrong for them, and the most unpleasant thing is that their pessimism also affects the mood of others, depriving them of energy.
Being close to such a person is difficult, it is better to surround yourself with people who are optimistic, energetic and confident in the future. Those who inspire, whose enthusiasm is contagious, communication with whom charges. Such people make life better, only they should be left in it.