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Hello dear blog readers! Experts have found that the name is the most pleasant, “caressing” the ear word. Provided that a person does not feel antipathy towards him. If you want to achieve attention and location, address him by name as often as possible. Even in a fairly noisy room, he will hear his name and respond.
But what if it is difficult to keep a large amount of information in memory and sometimes there are awkward moments due to the fact that you forgot the name of the interlocutor?
In this article, we will look at ways that will teach you how to remember people’s names, moreover, the first time and without having to spend a lot of time trying to turn to the halls of your memory.
Why does a person not remember immediately?
When meeting, our brain has to process a huge amount of information in order to form an opinion about a person in just a few seconds. That is, absolutely all organs of perception are used.
We pay attention to the appearance of the interlocutor, his voice, posture, clothing, manner of speaking, gestures, smell, occasionally touching. And among other things, we also listen carefully to what he says in order to catch the meaning of what was said and be able to answer.
That is why the name, if you do not specifically fix attention on it, flies as if past your ears. And even if we repeat it right away, after a few minutes we will forget what letter it began with.
Methods
Composure and concentration
Well, if involuntarily it doesn’t work out to remember someone else’s name, concentrate on it and use it in your speech as often as possible. Initially, just repeating to yourself ten times.
Started immediately after meeting. For example, you can ask how your new acquaintance is doing by adding it either at the end or at the beginning of a sentence.
The main thing is not to use it in every phrase, otherwise it will look ridiculous and vice versa, it will repel.
Memory bets
Think about what kind of memory you have better developed? What is the easiest thing for you to keep for many years? Smells, images, sounds, associations…?
Suppose, if you have a well-developed visual memory, then, before you forget, write down the necessary information on paper. If auditory, you can ask a new friend for a business card and read it aloud.
Associations
Connect your imagination by creating a verbal link or a picture. Suppose a new colleague’s name is Rome, then you can come up with «Rima from Rome» and every time you meet her, this phrase will automatically appear in your head.
Also associate the new person with a friend, a good acquaintance, who has the same name. If there are no such people in the environment, then you can simply imagine that he is standing in an embrace with someone whom he very much resembles.
It doesn’t matter if it’s the same face, style of dress or personality trait. Now, if Masha laughs as loudly as Elena, a friend at work, then why not use this similarity to your advantage to simplify the memorization process?
You can choose any celebrity, actor, singer, or even a successful businessman or politician. Or come up with funny rhymes, substitute names in your favorite poems, and so on.
In general, give free rein to your imagination and you will succeed!
Declination
Try playing around with the name, coming up with all sorts of pronunciations and abbreviations. This action will help to fix it in your head for a long time.
By the way, if you ask a new acquaintance exactly how he likes to be called, then you will surely remember how best to address him. Because in this case you do not ignore it, but on the contrary, you notice and show a desire to know what it really is.
Think for yourself, how often do you get asked about which particular variation of the name is more pleasant for you?
This, of course, applies only to personal, friendly relationships. When the meeting is official, there can be no question of such a gesture. It will simply be regarded as familiarity and disrespect.
Appearance
Pay attention to more prominent facial features and appearance in general. And again, use the method of associations. Let’s say Igor has a huge nose, Andrey has sparse hair, and Olga has tiny eyes.
Just try not to share them with anyone, otherwise if it reaches the owner, this can have an extremely negative impact on your future relationships and reputation in general.
Drawing
Mentally write his name on his forehead. Just try not to hold your eyes for a long time, otherwise the interlocutor will suspect something was wrong. The same trick can be done with the last name.
This technique is perfect for those who have the most developed visual type of perception of information.
For a brighter picture, you can depict fiery or ice letters.
Recommendations
Develop attention
There are many methods by which you can, as they say, «pump» your attention. After all, when we know how to focus on one thing, then we notice more in this life, which means we receive, understand and move forward, achieve success.
And what kind of exercises are suitable for this case, you will learn from this article.
ask again
If you don’t hear the person’s name, feel free to ask them again. Because the longer you communicate, the more embarrassing it will be to do so. At the beginning of dating, it looks quite normal. Especially if his name is unusual and difficult to pronounce. You can even ask to write it down on a piece of paper, which will later serve as a cheat sheet for you.
And if it so happened that you want to contact him, but his name is completely out of your head, be sincere, you should not try to replace it with words like respected, sun and so on. It will be quite normal if you say: «Sorry, I’m bad at remembering names, could you repeat yours?».
Give compliments
It will not be superfluous to notice when meeting that the interlocutor has a beautiful or unusual name. Or that one of your close relatives and just people dear to the heart is the same. This will win you over, because who doesn’t like compliments if they are sincere and from the bottom of their hearts?
Therefore, you should not lie and invent, a lie will be “recognized” non-verbally and a biased attitude will arise towards you.
Brain deception
You need to learn how to deceive your brain, which, in order to save energy, simply sometimes convinces a person that he is unable to cope with such a task.
Basically, all the limitations are within us, if we allow ourselves more than usual and dare to go beyond the boundaries of the usual, then completely new opportunities may open up for us.
So make an effort and do not devalue yourself by predicting a negative outcome in advance. On the contrary, it is worth spending energy on convincing you that everything will work out for you. And then you will really be successful.
Completion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! Finally, I want to recommend that you read the article about what types of memory exist. So that you understand your strengths and weaknesses, and also can choose the most appropriate exercises for its development.
And share in the comments your methods that help out in difficult times. When you can not remember either the name or the surname, and sometimes the appearance of the interlocutor. We will be grateful for the information.
Take care of yourself and be happy!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina