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- 1. They put you on a pedestal and give you exaggerated attention.
- 2. Their speech and gestures are sweet and charming… beyond measure
- 3. They always secretly want to destroy your social connections.
- 4. They crack down on anyone who is better than them at something.
- 5. They take pleasure in hurting others.
- 6. They use their attractiveness to achieve goals.
- What to do if you encounter a female sociopath
Whether we like it or not, in the modern world, many women, going through the process of socialization, become covertly aggressive. The result is sad: they choose the victim and, resorting to bullying, use indirect methods of influence. At the same time, they are quite cute and attractive on the outside. How do you know if you’re a sociopath? Here are some tips.
1. They put you on a pedestal and give you exaggerated attention.
When a sociopathic woman first meets you, she is like an agent on a mission to collect as much information about you as possible. She needs to determine whether the game is worth the candle: whether you will become a good target for her. But it’s hard to guess about it – outwardly she is soulfulness itself and surrounds you with exaggerated attention. At first, it will seem to you that you have a lot in common with her.
A sociopathic woman will play on your pity or sympathize with memories of her childhood, asking in detail about yours or about the situations in which you found yourself. She will have the same interests and hobbies as you, and the same goals in life.
At the beginning of the acquaintance, she will erect a beautiful pedestal for you, on which it is so comfortable to be. At the same time, she will already know about your weaknesses and strengths and will have time to win your trust, which means she will be able to use your resources (money, status, reputation, fame, and so on) for her own purposes.
2. Their speech and gestures are sweet and charming… beyond measure
Just like a male sociopath, a female sociopath skillfully creates a socially attractive image. Are sociability, activity, the ability to make acquaintances and keep up a conversation highly quoted in society? That is exactly what she will be.
Sometimes in her eyes you will notice envy, anger or greed, but only for a moment. Conversely, in situations that would cause fear or excitement in anyone, a sociopathic woman remains cool and calm, like a reptile.
Her charm, even if it seems exaggerated or a little unnatural, is still able to convince many
A sociopathic woman can talk with exaggerated enthusiasm, be unusually enthusiastic and lively, bright and sparkling with optimism. Only suddenly, contemptuous notes or intonations alien to the created image slip through her speech, which can betray her real intentions.
Her charm, even if it seems exaggerated or a little unnatural, is still able to convince many. This is happening, among other things, because in the public mind women are still perceived as the weaker sex, incapable of violence and cruelty.
Remember how narcissists and sociopaths behave? They, like chameleons, adapt to the social situation and take on the coloring that will bring them the greatest benefit. Their image is very convincing and charismatic, but only for those who can be of any use to them.
But to those from whom there is nothing to take, they turn their true face. Watch how arrogantly your companion refers to a subordinate, this will tell you a lot. Against those who have caused her narcissistic anger or envy, she is ready to use her full arsenal.
She easily manipulates rumors, creates and destroys coalitions, accuses people of what they did not do.
A sociopathic woman here, too, acts in accordance with her feminine nature – she shows her aggression primarily in relations with others and secretly.
As a bee “queen”, she vigilantly guards her status in the kingdom she has created from the slightest threat. She easily manipulates rumors, creates and destroys coalitions, accuses people of what they did not do, spreads gossip and rumors, uses slander and maintains rivalry among the people around her – both men and women.
4. They crack down on anyone who is better than them at something.
If someone from the environment poses even the slightest threat to a sociopathic woman: she possesses what she does not have, or knows how to do what she herself lacks the ability and talent to do, she will deal with him without regret. A sociopathic woman believes that only she can do whatever she wants.
Her motto is: “It’s all about me and for me. And if not, I have to make sure that it is so.”
Sociopathic women hate those who threaten their grandiose egos, those who are more successful or get more attention. They feel threatened by their very essence, their “I”.
That is why many sociopathic women spread rumors about their most attractive and successful friends, bully those they envy at work, crack down on those who once helped them achieve career success, and rightfully turn their close attention to other people’s companions.
5. They take pleasure in hurting others.
Yes, it was this category of women who, in one well-known psychological experiment, experienced pleasure by marking pictures with sad and suffering characters.
Nothing gives them more pleasure than to make some kind person who was naive enough to believe them worry. For the same reason, they prudently ignore their companions and immediately pour out streams of flattery and attention on someone from their inner circle.
A scenario is easily formed in their head in which their new gullible victim has already been defeated. They perfectly master the art of creating roller coasters with a difference in heights from immense adoration to cold contempt.
6. They use their attractiveness to achieve goals.
A sociopathic woman loves to be the center of attention. This gives her power and at the same time the power to control others.
Another admirer feeds her with his energy, and this is hard to refuse. The sociopathic side of her nature enjoys being able to command and control others like puppets, while the narcissistic side gets the validation of her ego.
Sociopathic women have no questions about whether to use their physical attractiveness if they need to achieve some goal. Seduce a stranger or spend a weekend with a powerful person to move up the corporate ladder – both options are equally acceptable. Such women are known for their numerous love adventures, they surround themselves with fans, including former, potential, and current partners. This is their way of life.
They easily lie, manipulate and make promises. As soon as you fall out of their sphere of interest, their manner of communication changes dramatically.
Someone who has ceased to be helpful will never receive the same amount of their attention or simple human interest. For them, you and everyone else is just a tool to achieve goals, no more and no less.
What to do if you encounter a female sociopath
First and foremost, don’t take everything personally. Very often, the victims of such women begin to blame themselves for the fact that the relationship broke up. Remember: neither your attractiveness or unattractiveness, nor your character has nothing to do with it. So many fall into their trap precisely because a sociopathic woman knows how to be persuasive and present herself.
Instead of worrying and blaming yourself, explore your own past, the ways in which she manipulated you – and take care of yourself so that you can move forward without this toxic baggage.