50 things I want to teach my son

Recently, I seriously thought about my relationship with my son. I love him, but is this all I can and should give him? The task turned out to be not trivial: so that really seriously, not on the run, sit down and calmly think: “Are my children developing correctly? Am I satisfied with the way we communicate? And they? What should I teach my children and what do I really teach them?”

No, I’m not talking about engaging in self-criticism or drawing up complex scientific plans for the «moral and psychological preparation of the younger generation», let them do this in schools. But some certainty in this question is still worth making.

So I sat down and made a list of things that I absolutely must teach my son.

1. How to ride a bike.
2. How to throw the ball and hit the ring.
3. How to organize your reading and how to write well.
4. That life has not only a beginning, but also an end.
5. How to treat women.
6. Relationships are a two-way street.
7. Fighting is not good, but necessary.
8. How to shave.
9. If you think that a girl is beautiful, then you need to tell her about it.
10. Not everyone on the planet has wealth, so be grateful for what you have.
11. Do not refuse help to those who really need it.
12. The only support you can definitely count on in this life is your strengths and skills.
13. Our planet needs protection. Don’t litter to begin with.
14. Life is sometimes very difficult. But after the fall there is always a rise.
15. An easy life is a boring life. A boring life is a wasted life.
16. The world is not only your house and your neighbor’s yard. It’s big and needs to be explored.
17. Everything in the world is logical and everything has its own explanation. If you have met magic, then it means that you simply do not see the transparent threads of the magician.
18. You learn while you live. Conversely, you live until you stop learning.
19. Logic and reason is all you need in life.
20. Knowledge is power, yes. But some things are better not to know.
21. If you fell in love, then try to keep this feeling as long as possible.
22. Be slow in relationships. This area does not tolerate fuss and haste.
23. The decision to live together is a very big step. Very often after that everything collapses.
24. If the relationship fizzles out, then have the courage to end it. Don’t pull.
25. Sometimes you have to lie. And only the cause determines whether it is right or not.
26. Drugs are too expensive. You will have to give your life for them.
27. … the same with alcohol.
28. … but it’s not about sex.
29. If the sex isn’t too good, then make it that way. If you can’t, then it’s best to leave.
30. Intimacy is really very important in a relationship.
31. Never settle for second rate just because it’s more affordable.
32. Honesty is the foundation of successful relationships. Except in certain cases when the lie is really necessary.
33. Always follow your inner compass. He will show you the correct and honest way.
34. Be kind to people and appreciate them.
35. The main goal in life is to find your purpose.
36. Your task is to do something that benefits people, and you — pleasure. If there is neither the first nor the second, then there is no point in doing this.
37. Always try to win.
38. Take defeat as a lesson.
39. Never give up on your dreams.
40. You must set long term and short term goals for yourself.
41. You can control your body and mind.
42. Meditate regularly.
43. Stay always physically active and do not lose shape.
44. Proper nutrition is the key to health, and this is the greatest value in life. Literally.
45. Protect yourself. Always. At least not until you are married.
46. Don’t have kids too early. But you don’t have to drag it out too much either.
47. Love is important.
48. You are responsible for your own life.
49. Your family is always by your side. But you also need to be close to your family.
50. Life isn’t about partying with friends, but having good friends makes it great.

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