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“How are you?”, “How is the weekend?”, “How was your day?” – three common questions that we ask each other most often. But this is just the tip of the iceberg: in order to get to know and better understand a person, we can ask him about things that are much more interesting.
A couple sits at a dining table in the morning. They look happy and content in each other’s company as they chat with eachother and laugh. They drink hot cups of tea/ coffee.
A lot of people don’t like the idea that relationships take work. It seems that this contradicts the very idea of ease and pleasure from communication.
However, building and strengthening social ties with people needs to be invested, and there is no better way to do this than to start asking questions, but not all in a row, but those that will allow the interlocutor to open up.
The main thing is to understand what you can ask about, and for this you need to correctly assess the degree of closeness with your counterpart. Collected fifty questions for different occasions.
15 questions for new acquaintances
- I love your [item] so much. Is there a story associated with it?
- Do you like it here? (In case you crossed paths at an event)
- In general, do you like such events?
- Have you met anyone interesting here?
- What part of the event did you enjoy the most?
- What do you like to do in your spare time?
- What is your favorite film?
- What is your favorite book?
- What subject did you like at school?
- What is your most favorite animal?
- What was your most memorable vacation?
- If you were to start your career path all over again, what would you do?
- Is there anything you would like to know about early in your career?
- What projects are you currently working on?
- What motivates you to work hard?
15 questions not too close friends
- Have you watched [name of movie or series]?
- What was the most interesting part of your working day today?
- What achievement are you most proud of?
- Has your job changed in any way during the pandemic?
- What application do you use the most?
- What is your favorite band?
- What is your favorite book or movie character?
- How do you see your ideal vacation?
- What makes you happy?
- What makes you laugh the most?
- What did you dream of becoming as a child?
- Who is your favorite actor/comedian?
- If you had to eat the same meal every day for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- Do you watch any sports on TV?
- Do you play sports yourself?
10 questions for loved ones
- What habit do you want to get rid of?
- How was your vacation?
- How is your [partner, child, parent, sibling] doing?
- Did you have to leave the remote office?
- Did you finish the project you were working on?
- What are you most afraid of in the world?
- What do you love most about your job?
- What is the coolest thing about your profession?
- If you had a time machine, which era would you travel to?
- Do you prefer giving or receiving gifts?
10 questions for all time
- If you could befriend any celebrity, who would it be?
- How would you describe yourself in three words?
- What do you most often buy online?
- What would you do if you had a couple of free hours?
- What’s the craziest thing you’ve done lately?
- Do you have “shameful pleasures”?
- What would you sing if we went to karaoke now?
- What radio station do you most often listen to in the car?
- Tell me about your hobbies.
- Share your happiest childhood memory.
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Some of the above questions may seem strange or inappropriate to you, the purpose of this list is only to expand your communicative range, and you can always supplement it with your own questions.
Remember that any healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, interest and trust. Be gentle with others, respect their personal boundaries, ask thoughtful questions, and show genuine curiosity and a willingness to hear the answer.
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