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It happens to all of us from time to time. We suddenly lose the meaning of life. We seem insignificant, insignificant, helpless. We are tormented by questions to which we cannot find an answer: “Does my life have any meaning? Is anyone paying attention to me? Does anything depend on me?”
“Especially often the feeling of my own insignificance arises in crowded places, among strangers, for example, at the airport. Or when I’m standing on the edge of the Grand Canyon and it takes my breath away. It is enough to look at the starry sky on a cloudless night – and any of us will feel like just a tiny grain of sand, ”says life coach Maria Thomas-Kegan.
If such thoughts and sensations occur only occasionally, this is completely normal. But if you notice that they appear more often, you should think about the reasons.
Depression can multiply the feeling of insignificance and powerlessness. The problem may also be low self-esteem or the habit of constantly comparing yourself to others. It really “helps” to devalue your own achievements.
How often do you compare yourself to others? It is easy to fall into this trap, imagining that everyone around us lives better and more successfully than us. What if they really think the same about us? reminiscent of Maria Thomas-Kegan.
If you notice that you have become too often overcome by a sense of your own insignificance, helplessness, and it seems that you do not see the meaning of life, here’s what you can do.
1. Think about your loved ones
Try to remember by name everyone who cares about you. List them out loud. Close and distant relatives, friends, colleagues, mentors – everyone who respects and appreciates you. Remembering what an important role you play in the lives of many people who love and cherish you, you immediately feel different.
2. Help someone in need
Remembering your “support group,” think about who you yourself can support. “We simply cannot feel helpless and worthless when we help others,” says Maria Thomas-Kegan.
3. Start moving towards a goal that is meaningful to you
Choose a goal for yourself – it doesn’t matter what it will be, the main thing is that moving towards it gives a sense of progress. It can be a small project in a field that interests you, where you can apply your talents and creativity. Start implementing it, without rushing anywhere, step by step.
4. Stop comparing
Sometimes we look in the mirror and we don’t like what we see at all. We are drawn to comparisons that are inevitably not in our favor.
“If only I could be as skinny as she is!” “I would like as many orders as she has!”
Thoughts like these run the risk of unsettling us. It is important to replace them as soon as possible with other ideas and statements that give us strength and faith in the future.
“I just have other abilities and talents – and I will develop them.” “I try very hard to lead a healthy lifestyle, and in time I will succeed.” “In my work, I have a unique approach to business that distinguishes me from my colleagues.” “I’m not like everyone else.”
5. Remember that you are a significant person
Look in the mirror, smile and take a deep breath. Straighten your shoulders and remember all those who admire you. Think also about those whom you help and who rely on your support. Deeply feel the feeling of your own importance and wear it like a cloak.
In order to change our internal sense of self and feel significant, we need to look at ourselves in a new way. The new and the unknown is always scary, and this fear has to be overcome, because we never know exactly what may await us on the way.
“They say that insanity is the constant repetition of the same actions in the hope of a different result. If your way of thinking makes you feel worthless, you will have to change it to get rid of this feeling. If you don’t want to change, it’s your own choice,” sums up Maria Thomas-Kegan.