5 Ways to Correct Your Teen Behavior

When a child ceases to obey, is rude and argues, loved ones begin to wonder: “What happened to the dear child, how to fix everything and return our angel?” In fact, the desire to be independent, a heightened sense of ownership, jealousy, devaluation of the opinions of adults, mood swings are an absolutely normal and natural development of events. It can even be said that a teenager who is too obedient, attached to his parents, trying to fall into childhood is a deviation.

But how to survive this period? How to correct the behavior of the child or is it worth leaving everything as it is? The answer to this question lies in well-structured communication. In other words, by properly communicating with a teenager, you will avoid many of the problems of puberty.

5 rules for successful communication with a child

There are a number of principles that should be followed when communicating with a teenager. Together they make up a set of rules, the observance of which will strengthen relationships in the family, help the child feel loved, understood. These recommendations will allow him to build trusting communication with close adults, which means they will protect him from committing stupid things. The most terrible negative consequences of the negative passage of the crisis in the form of depression, alcoholism, drug addiction and ties with a “bad company” will bypass it.

Rule #1

It is necessary to provide an atmosphere that will allow him to grow up not only psychologically, but also physically healthy. Children during this period are especially sensitive to appearance, and it’s not just about the desire to communicate with the opposite sex. Adults should understand that now their child is changing, he is growing at an incredible speed, hormones are raging, and the brain does not have time to analyze all this.

The task of parents is to explain what happens to the body at all levels. At the same time, create conditions for a daughter or son to feel as comfortable as possible in a new body. Proper nutrition, timely visits to doctors, and sports will come to the rescue. Of course, we must not forget that a teenager wants to be beautiful, and, for example, to think about a wardrobe.

Rule number 2. Absolute, unconditional love

This is one of the most difficult principles, because it is very difficult to accept another (even your child) as he is, without reservations, criticism and claims. Children up to the 4th-5th grade have such a feeling for their parents. Then it’s time to switch places. The personality that has developed by adolescence is the result of upbringing from birth to this moment. Another thing is that the result may not suit the parents. This is where the work comes in: you need to forget your childhood traumas and complexes, become an example of a successful, happy person and just love.

Then the child will see an example that he wants to imitate, he will see in you a person whom he wants to listen to, with whom he can consult and be friends.

Rule #3

Most often, the child hears accusations addressed to him: “You are doing everything wrong”, “You have a terrible character”, “You study poorly, do not obey.” Such communication brings only conflict. Communication built on the “I-message” looks different. With its help, you can share experiences, talk about the results of actions so that the child himself wants to do the right thing without reproaches and punishments. In the “I-message” it is important to thank for something good, describe your own experiences on the topic of the conflict, explain the reason for the experiences and complete the message with a request to him. This approach changes the color of communication between children and parents for the better.

Rule number 4. Support and hugs

Remember the last time you were thanked, you were given a compliment. It’s nice, isn’t it? After all, it is important for self-esteem and mood. Adults should analyze their communication and count how many times a day they hug children (you need at least 5), say phrases such as “I understand” or “How can I help?” “what / what a good fellow you are!”. It is very important that the child feels the support of adults, and the relationship thaws and warms up. At the same time, the reason for encouragement can be anything – from choosing clothes to success in any area.

Rule #5

One psychologist said: “If you want to understand the client, you must be in his shoe.” It really is. Parents need to know the interests of their children, spend time together, discuss friends and study. To build relationships, you can remember your adolescence, tell funny stories or experiences. It is worth considering what can capture both of you, and use these “common points”.

Once I was asked what I would call the main result in life. After thinking, I said that these are moments and events that we remember with a smile on our face. I wish all parents, and especially parents of teenage children, as many memories as possible when they smile together. Remember: raising a child is, first of all, raising yourself! The well-being of the child is worth all the hard work put into creating warm and friendly relations and mutual understanding forever.