Confess not only to others, boyfriend or spouse, but even to yourself.
“No, no, I don’t even think about children yet. My career is taking off, and I have to buy a house first, ”28-year-old Daria dismisses questions about the ticking clock.
Often women say this in absolute sincerity. And at the same time they lie – even to themselves. Sometimes we prefer not to notice the ticking: it’s scary, and there is no suitable man on the horizon. We convince ourselves that really nothing is ticking. But take a closer look at yourself – or a childless friend: are there any signs in you that it is actually time to have kids?
· Maternal instinct
“Every woman has a motherhood instinct,” says psychologist Yana Troitskaya. – Under it is understood the desire to take care and protect. This is from birth in the subconscious of every woman. After all, this approach is deeply embedded mainly in nature. And we, people, are its integral part and function according to its laws ”.
The psychologist explains: the strength of the expression of the maternal instinct is different for everyone, since it depends on many factors. This is also the society in which the girl grew up, how her parents raised her, whether she had brothers and sisters, etc.
“If you feel an urgent need to take care of someone, and those around you begin to be pretty annoyed, then you need to direct these aspirations to your child.”
Monotonous life
When you no longer feel like going to parties, and sitting at home is still boring and you have no strength to work, it means that you are already definitely ready for a change in lifestyle.
“When every day turns into a routine, there is a feeling that something needs to be changed urgently, then the child will definitely breathe new life into you,” says the psychologist. – You will have a huge number of worries: you will not be able to sleep normally at night, the day will be scheduled by the minute. And any free hour will be a real reward. “
Envy of girlfriends
When you meet with your friends, you are delighted with how their kids shout “mommy!” and rush to embrace. Then they sit on their knees, wrap their neck around and kiss. Somewhere deep down, you would also like your child to also sincerely confess his love. They would give a lot for this bundle of happiness to cuddle up to you, fingering your hair and being a hooligan. Is there such a thing? ..
· Successful career
You got a promotion at work. For this, they plowed, so that after many years they finally start living for themselves. Now many responsibilities can be shifted to subordinates and with a clear conscience think about what will happen next … After all, care must be taken to have time to leave heirs, educate them, teach them and make them people. You begin to actively analyze your life and understand that there is just not enough child for a full-fledged feeling of being an accomplished woman.
Desire to find a close friend
“It may seem strange, but it really is, – says Troitskaya. – I must admit to myself that it is nice to have a person next to you who will look at you with wide-open eyes, as if you were a deity. Then you will definitely not feel the notorious loneliness, since you will simply be necessary for a little man who learns the world. You can always find mutual understanding in him. Even in a baby who will, without understanding anything yet, just love and say that you are the best. When the child grows up, he can become the closest friend. You just need to be able to educate him correctly. “