5 signs of an experienced manipulator

1. He fuels the fire of your resentment.

What annoys you in this world? Really angry? Annoys? The fact that you work seven days a week, but you still don’t have enough money to live? New restrictive measures? Sanctions against your country?

Whatever it is, the manipulator will never convince you that you are wrong and offer to look at the situation from a new angle. No, he will only throw wood on the fire and make the flames of your rage flare up even brighter. And then he will offer a rather abstract and time-consuming solution, which, of course, will not change anything.

And this is the whole point of what manipulators do: after all, if they solve your problem, you will no longer need them, and if they undertake to fix everything, but they fail, you will stop believing in them. So they come up with a solution that doesn’t work, and then they find someone to blame for something that didn’t work out. Such people give you hope while prolonging your suffering, and this allows them to keep you on a short leash.

2. He blames official circles for everything.

Not only the “ruling elite” and “corrupt government”, but also any official force. For example, a manipulator who offers you to buy a “folk” remedy will scold official medicine with all his might. We instinctively begin to feel sympathy for him, because he allegedly fights for us, our rights.

3. He makes you feel grateful and trust him.

Have you ever listened to some public person and thought: “Yes, I thought about this for a long time, but I could not articulate it so well!” What-what, and this manipulators know how to put your emotions into words. Due to this, an “invisible connection” is created between you, it seems to you that you are finally being heard and understood, and in response to this, feelings of devotion and respect are born.

The manipulator puts a label on the victim, which he happily accepts (for example, “an honest hard worker on whom everyone profits”) and which supposedly explains his problems, and then offers a solution that, as we said above, will not work in the end.

4. He shifts responsibility to others.

An experienced manipulator knows that most of us, even if we feel a dirty trick, insincerity and injustice, blame ourselves for all our problems – that’s how we were brought up. And he takes advantage of it. Never, under any circumstances, does he take responsibility for himself – a certain “third party” is always to blame for everything.

The manipulator will surely shift the blame for your failure to her: for example, corporations, the government or the influx of migrants are to blame for your business going bankrupt. And he will certainly add: “Don’t worry. You didn’t have a choice, you were forced to do it.” Feeling pain, both emotional and physical, we intuitively reach out to someone who, we think, should ease it. And the manipulator acts as just such a person.

5. He takes advantage of situations where you feel humiliated.

Imagine that you were fired from your job – unpleasant, isn’t it? And it’s not even about the money – you were considered incompetent, not suitable for this position, superfluous, “bad”, and you may even be forced to join the labor exchange and receive benefits. Rest assured, the manipulator is already right there – it was he who managed to “decipher” the situation with the dismissal for you, and now looms somewhere nearby and gives you crumbs of hope that everything will change, and you will no longer experience such burning shame.

Even if you are not too worried about some situation, the manipulator will turn it around so that you will begin to be ashamed of what is happening and need it as your lifesaver.

Why does the manipulator need it? To get your attention. Enlist your support. Convince you of something or even sell something. All this can be presented under the guise of caring for you, but be on the lookout: such a person cares only about his interests. Don’t let him get too close.