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Expecting a baby is an exciting time, but that’s no reason to deny yourself the usual pleasure for nine months. Sex during pregnancy can not only bring pleasure to the expectant mother, but also have a positive effect on subsequent births. The main thing is to do it safely for yourself and the baby.
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Features of sex during pregnancy
Pregnancy is like a swing: due to physiological and hormonal transformations, a woman sometimes wants sex very much, sometimes she doesn’t want it at all. Therefore, the sex life of a future mother in different trimesters can differ significantly.
- In the first trimester, there is a decrease in desire in most women. Causes – toxicosis, drowsiness, breast swelling. All these factors can negatively affect libido.
- The second trimester, on the contrary, is marked by a sexual upsurge. The ailments recede, the woman feels a surge of strength, physiological changes in the body are not yet so critical, and nothing prevents you from enjoying yourself in bed.
- In the third trimester, sexual life in couples actually fades. A woman approaches this period with a significant increase in weight. Heartburn, fatigue, and digestive problems may appear.
Sex while expecting a baby makes a woman feel wanted
At the same time, it is impossible to derive a “universal formula” for libido during pregnancy: the desire of each woman in different months can be very different. That is why it is so important to listen to your body and have sex, guided solely by your desires.
One of the positive changes while expecting a baby is increased sensitivity, so orgasms are felt brighter. The thing is that during pregnancy, blood circulation in the body of a woman increases.
As for orgasms, they can and should be received, but only if there is no prohibition from the gynecologist. At the peak of pleasure, uterine contractions occur, which indirectly prepare the body for childbirth.
Also, during sex, oxytocin and other hormones are produced that allow a woman to experience the feeling of affection and happiness that a future mother needs so much. Sex while expecting a baby makes a woman feel wanted and increases intimacy between partners.
How to have sex with future parents?
Sex during pregnancy is not contraindicated and is very useful if a woman is not at risk of premature birth. But even with a normal pregnancy, there are a number of rules that should be followed for the sake of your comfort and safety.
1. Use condoms
During pregnancy, immunity decreases, and the vagina may respond ambiguously to any foreign microorganisms. So for the time being, while you are expecting a baby, you need to return to barrier contraception – even with a regular partner. And do not forget to regularly take tests with him.
2. Find the perfect pose
The best position for intimacy during pregnancy is one that allows you to relax and enjoy as much as possible. Don’t be afraid to experiment to find what works best for you.
3. Use lubricants
During pregnancy, some women experience problems with natural lubrication. To avoid microtrauma, hypoallergenic water-based lubricants should be used. They should not contain sugar, so as not to provoke the development of candidiasis.
4. Sex toys – with care
Can vibrators be used during pregnancy? Some scientists claim that vibration can be uncomfortable for a child, but there are no definitive studies on this.
But during this period, you can try vacuum stimulators. By type of impact, they are similar to oral caresses, which are no less – and for some women even more – pleasant than penetrative sex.
5. Remember tactility
If the gynecologist forbade you to have sex, specify what kind of sex in question. Perhaps he means vaginal, and all other options are perfectly acceptable. Petting, fingering, oral sex, masturbation – you have a lot of room for erotic creativity.
If uterine contractions are undesirable and orgasms are contraindicated for you, then massage techniques, light strokes will do. Tactility during pregnancy is especially important. Therefore, do not hesitate to ask your partner to hug you more often, to caress your whole body.
Your health, comfort and safety must come first
And most importantly: do not compare your pregnancy experience with the experience of your girlfriends. All women are different: they have different needs for sex, they like different positions, they choose different times for intimacy. All this is normal.
In no case should you force yourself to have an intimate relationship without desire (and not only during pregnancy!), Even if the partner “really needs it.” Your health, comfort and safety should come first, especially during this delicate period.
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About expert
Ekaterina Bibisheva – sex coach and founder of the Vagimagia school of intimate gymnastics. Her blog at