there is first of all a myth which must be wrung out. Especially since if you came across this article, it is probably because you did a little research on this subject on the Internet, and that you have often read the same stupid thing! No, sex does not necessarily mean penetration, or in any case, not necessarily right away, or not all the time. 

Result, in this “top 5”, unlike other advice that you will read elsewhere, you will not necessarily find five positions where penetration is presented as essential and essential. Also, don’t read these tips as if they were a leaderboard or a compulsory course. The last is well worth the first! 

1. The 69 

It is undoubtedly the most complicit position of all, because it is the only one which is accompanied by a complete donation to the other. We offer our partner what he offers us, reciprocally, simultaneously. And if by luck, or by dint of knowing the other, we reach an orgasm together at the same time, it is undoubtedly the position which offers the most fulfillment to the two lovers.

Of course, there are 69 and 69. On the side, one above the other… The important thing is that the position is comfortable for both. Important: as explained above, penetration is neither essential nor indispensable. In the case of a 69, the hands, fingers, lips, tongue, are all ways to stimulate the other, and make him reach orgasm. Surprise her, surprise her! 

2. The doggy style

It may be classic, this position is nonetheless one of the most comfortable, and the most capable of bringing pleasure and fulfillment to both partners. The doggy style allows the woman not to be crushed by her partner, to control the angle of penetration by choosing how she arches, and even, to caress the clitoris. The man can also caress the shoulders, stomach, breasts, sex of his partner, kiss her on the back of the neck or on the neck, nibble on her ear… without forgetting to talk to her! Be careful, gentlemen, not to straddle your partner. In this position, the penetration can be very, too deep! Let yourself be guided by his advice … or his hands. By respecting these tips, fulfillment guaranteed for both lovers.

3. The andromache

It’s the opposite of doggy style. In this position, the woman straddles and dominates the man. She not only chooses the angle of penetration, the depth, but also the rhythm. Innovate: orient your body differently, first, lying on your partner, then, upright, sitting on him, then, why not, back, hands resting on his thighs, or on the sides. The development of man is guaranteed by the spectacle which is thus offered to him by his partner, and by the varied back and forth movements that she lavishes on him. For her, it is the succession of positions that each time stimulate her vagina and her clitoris differently (you can help yourself, or get help from your partner, fingers)

4. The deckchair

It is a very interesting variant of the andromache. This time again, the partner comes to sit on her lover. But instead of kneeling on him, she will instead lie on him, and place her legs on either side of his shoulders. Of course, for his part, his partner is a deckchair: arms back, and legs slightly raised. Contrary to what one might think, this position is not at all tiring, nor acrobatic either. It has the double advantage of slowly increasing the pleasure (in fact impossible in this position to adopt a frantic pace), and of allowing the partner to seek, by the movements of her pelvis, the position which stimulates her the best, as well as his partner. Needless to say that it is wise for the man to let go of a hand from time to time, to go and play to titillate his partner’s clitoris. Even if you don’t go all the way in this position, you will remember it! 

5. The antelope

It’s a variation of doggy style that men love, and the benefits of which women too often ignore. In this position, the woman offers herself to her partner on her knees, as for doggy style, but by placing herself on her knees on the edge of the bed. Advantage ? She can lean on the bed, and even, fully spread out, abandon herself on it! It is the height of comfort for her. No angle to seek, no balance to maintain, it is total abandonment. The man is delighted to see his partner thus offered. He too can abandon himself on her, knowing that it is the bed that will bear the weight of their two torsos. In this position, Madame can and must play with her clitoris, her lover’s buttocks that she catches on the side, and set the pace by pulling him inside her with her legs. By squeezing them, or on the contrary, by removing them, she changes the sensations for her lover, as for her….

As you can see, the common point between these five fulfilling positions, (knowing that we could just as easily have selected ten, or twenty), is the exchange, the gift, the sharing, the complicity. Remember that the key to fulfilling sexuality is first of all to vibrate in unison, leaving frustrations and misunderstandings at the door! 

Jean-Baptiste Giraud

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