It doesn’t matter if it’s the first child or the third. Any new mother will be delighted with words of support.
“You look amazing.” Even if a newly born friend meets you in an old dressing gown or in stretched pants, you shouldn’t claim that she looks like a scarecrow. Perhaps her hairstyle is far from ideal, but you can always pay attention to how her eyes glow, how smooth her movements have become. Praise her appearance – this will help the young mother again feel like a woman, and not just a fulfillment of the child’s desires.
“Tell us how the birth went.” As the baby grows a little older, memories of the birthing process will fade. They will be blocked by other bright moments: the first smile of a baby, the first problems with teething … But now this is the most important event that a woman wants to share with her loved ones. She did it, she did it! So don’t be shy, ask for details.
“I love washing dishes.” Or iron. Or fold diapers. You can substitute any option for help around the house – it will pass with a bang. A small child takes a lot of time, and sometimes a young mother does not even have time to brush her teeth. So a friend will take an attempt to unload her at least a little with joy. But it’s about a friend or sister. If you ran to a former classmate whom you had not seen for five years, then you should not dust her or load things into the washing machine: mommy will be embarrassed.
“Go to the store, while I’m going for a walk with the baby.” Without exception, all mothers of babies admit: going to the store is equated with going out. You can’t get everywhere with a stroller, and the child constantly requires attention. Your friend will be immensely grateful to you for the opportunity to walk slowly through the supermarket.
“You are great, you can handle it.” The heroines of commercials are good: they are happy about everything, they solve the problems of babies in one fell swoop. In real life, young mothers often have doubts about whether they are taking care of the child correctly, and are also very tired. Draw your friend’s attention to how much she has learned in a short time. And emphasize that you’re sure she can handle everything else. This will help her to believe in herself and her strength again.