Psychologists call this group of personality traits the “dark triad.” Those in whom they are clearly manifested can be heartless manipulators and abusers. What patterns in their behavior have been identified by psychologists?
People with the traits of the “dark triad” are often characterized by certain patterns of behavior. What should you expect from a relationship if your partner is prone to Machiavellianism, narcissism and psychopathy?
1.Lozh
All three types have the ability to deceive. If Machiavellianism is associated with global, strategically verified lies, then the lies of the narcissist have one goal – to glorify themselves. But psychopaths can lie for no reason, which in itself causes great anxiety and a sense of insecurity in others.
2.Infidelity
Jade Wu, a clinical psychologist at Boston University, notes that triads tend to lack empathy, are impulsive, and lie. So people from all three groups can cheat on a partner. However, the consequences for each of them usually differ.
Machiavellian people are less likely to be caught cheating, so they manage to maintain their current relationship. What’s more, manipulation helps them make the cheated partner feel…guilty. But the betrayal of psychopaths, as a rule, leads to a break in relations.
3. Jealousy and revenge
The psychologist notes that people with traits of the “dark triad” often turn out to be prone to preventive jealousy – that is, they boil up even before they are given (or not given) a reason to do so.
People prone to treason are ready to believe that they themselves will be deceived, and if this happens, they will most likely want to take revenge. Whether they will make a scandal, raise a hand against a partner or pour mud on him in social networks is impossible to predict. But here’s what the researchers know for sure: women after infidelity in such situations tend to stay with a partner, as his guilt gives them the opportunity to manipulate and control.
4. Inability to intimacy
Opening up to others, building deep relationships is not for those who have the traits of the “dark triad”. And this applies to both partnership and friendship. What kind of relationship do they need? Machiavellians seek the company of people of high social status. Narcissists are excited by the desire to show off and show off in all their splendor. And psychopaths just use everyone who gets into their circle of friends.
5.Short ties
This pattern of behavior naturally follows from all the previous ones. Even if relationships with such people last quite a long time, they definitely cannot be called healthy. As a rule, they are destructive for the psyche and physical health of the other side.
For a full-fledged, healthy and long-term relationship, you need to have a quality that the researchers of the “dark triad” called warmth (English “warmth”). In Russian, we would talk about warmth, humanity, tact and friendliness. This is precisely what neither the Machiavellians, nor the narcissists, nor the psychopaths have.
The traits of the “dark triad” have many “shades of grey”. And if at first these features barely appeared in your partner, then over time they can intensify. And it will threaten your mental well-being, and in the worst cases, your life.
If you think that your partner or loved one has traits inherent in Machiavellians, narcissists and psychopaths, consult a psychologist. He will help you understand the situation and find a way out of it.
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