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We have to put up with some omissions in life, but there is something that we are able to change. For example, you can get your ex back if you realize the breakup was a mistake. We tell you how to do it.
If you are sure that the breakup was the wrong decision, then you probably thought that it would be nice to return your partner. In cases where we are talking about emotional, psychological, and even more so physical violence, it is better to forget about it. But if you have the feeling that it was your person and something went wrong or you could not properly deal with the difficulties that arose, then it may be worth trying to return everything.
That being said, you still need to give your partner some space instead of bombarding them with love letters and messages. Such pressure and lack of respect for his decision to be alone will reduce the chances of a reunion. So what can you do to make your partner realize that you are who he should be with?
1. Get on with your life
“Don’t solve his problems, don’t find out how he is doing,” says Carolyn Cole, a relationship specialist. Don’t push yourself and focus on yourself. Have fun, spend time with friends, build a career, learn new things.”
If you haven’t cut off all contact, he will see what an amazing life you lead and remember what an interesting and amazing person you are.
2. Don’t expect him to return
Even if you follow all possible recommendations, he may not return. Or you may suddenly realize that you no longer need his return — this happens very often, believe me. Wait and see how the situation develops.
“If he suddenly writes and asks how you are doing, just be happy about it,” explains Cole. “But it should be calm joy, and not frenzied delight, as if you were waiting for his message in the messenger all night long.
If you yourself decided to write to him, and he answered differently than you expected or didn’t answer at all, don’t throw a tantrum and don’t start asking “why don’t you answer” or “after everything that we had, I expected a different reaction.” Leave him alone for a while, otherwise you risk pushing him away even more.
3. Be patient
“By taking care of your life and not chasing your ex in the virtual and even more so the real world, you show that you are fine without him. You did not fall into despair and depression, you are an adult and self-sufficient person.
Give him the opportunity to miss you and your communication
If you are constantly and persistently present in his life, he is unlikely to realize how terrible it is to be without you, ”comments a relationship specialist.
4. Think about why you broke up
Of course, the first thing to focus on is getting over the breakup. But at the same time, you can think about what exactly you would need to work on in order for this relationship to become possible again.
“Did you learn any lesson from the end of this relationship? And if so, which one? Cole asks. “When you realize the true reasons for the breakup, and really change something, your partner — if you still communicate occasionally — will not be able to miss it.”